To ask what you'd think if

[WorkingOnMaStride]

There was absolutely no mention of step children on a step parents social media?

I don't have tonnes of friends on social media, mainly closer friends and family and have good privacy settings but I have never felt comfortable sharing pictures of my SC. I don't know why in particular, I just don't. Their Mum does put pictures of them on a lot so it's not a case of their parents don't. My husband barely uses it but has an account. He doesn't share anything really.

If I ever put any pictures on, I only ever put ones on of us/our joint DC.

It got me thinking today as I put a picture on of DH and our DC with a short happy father's day caption. If you were to look at my page (and by association my husband's as he never really shares anything and only has what I've tagged him in on there really), there would be no indication my SC existed.

I thought I was doing the right thing not sharing pictures of them but now I'm wondering, what do you think?

YANBU - it's fine to only share pics of your DC.

YABU - they should be included.

Is this for their benefit or are do you feel like you need to prove yourself to others? (it affects my answer)

I don't feel I need to prove myself no but equally I don't want it to seem like I'm just not arsed if that makes sense.

If I knew you well enough to know you have DSC, then I would assume that maybe you agreed not to put your DSC on your social media. I know a lot of DSP who don't feel it's their place or the DM of the DSC would prefer if they weren't on someone else's SM but I wouldn't assume that you didn't want them/didn't want to acknowledge them. Especially if the kids are young and can't really say for themselves that they're fine with you/anyone else sharing a photo of them.

It's probably a mix. If it is a family event we will generally include everyone. It's harder to do that with teens of course and day to day the older children don't do as much with us so there are now less pictures. It'd be weird to keep an even number at this point because of it.

Also one is getting to the age where they may start asking for an account (whether DH/their Mum would agree I don't know but it's not far off) and I don't know how it'd look I guess if they saw their dad's page was just things I'd tagged him in about our DC. I guess they'd see he doesn't post anything himself though.

I think it totally depends on the relationship with the childs mother.

Of course your husband can 'allow' you to put photos up, but if the mother would kick up a fuss then its not worth it, I also find it a bit cold to do a Father Day post for just your DC.

It may bother SC when they're older and notice no photos of them of your SM.

My husband treats my DC as his own, and will add photos as he pleases.

We get on fine me and their Mum but we've never had a conversation about pictures so I've no idea how she feels about it. I just took the stance of I don't know so I won't.

It certainly wasn't intended to be cold but like I say, I don't and never have added pics of the DSC so I'm not sure how else I could have done it. We all celebrated father's day together this morning.