To hate people commenting on my skin

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I am so fed up of this. I have really pale skin with freckles but if I am warm or a bit stressed I flush red...very red. Every time without fail that Ihave gone to work with no redness corrective make up on ( I'd really like to not have to wear it constantly) people comment...I've had ooh have you run a marathon/ why are you so rosy/ you look tanned/ what's wrong with your face etc. Every single time. I try to laugh it off and say " oh I'm just warm" but I hate it. I felt my race flush last week and prayed nobody would comment but ...they did!! I'm quite shy and it just makes it worse. Do I just resign myself to makeup or is there anything I could say back???

Yeah it's as if they don't think you notice it so they have to point it out. I'm sorry that so many of us have to tolerate this, I hate to think I'm somehow not acceptable in public without a layer of foundation on. It shouldn't be up to anyone else.

@Twitchynose yes I do but I've never sought treatment for it. I probably will one day when the NHS isn't under such high demand.

Yes - I have rosacea, mild now but has been terrible in the past.

I normally respond very coldly with "yes. It is a chronic skin condition called rosacea". Most of the time that shuts it down although sometimes you get someone then trying to tell you if you just gave up gluten/dairy/alcohol/sugar/citrus fruits/fun/whatever then it would go away.

I will never understand people commenting on others - it’s just so rude & unnecessary! Especially if it’s a stranger!

I also have this problem but mainly my nose. Can I ask what you find helps make up wise?

I find cream foundation sits in my pores around nose and have used Bare Minerals which does help but looks very powdery.

For me, it's that I'm extremely pale and white with bluish tones and I am constantly being asked if I feel ok, "you don't look well," "perhaps you ought to go home," getting told I must be anaemia, given lectures about my diet and going out in the sun, generally being treated like I must be at death's door. It's incredibly irritating because I'm fine, I'm just pale. I actually eat a lot of red meat and I do go out in the sun, I'm not anaemic and my skin tone just doesn't really go any darker. I wish people wouldn't be so insensitive. I don't think I've ever commented on anyone's appearance like that in my life.

For those of you who doesn’t mind make up and are very pale, try korean bb or cc creams full coverage.

Maybe they comment at work because they notice you look different from normal.

I'd suggest you completely ditch the foundation and just reply "yes, I sometimes do, that's normal". Try to sound bored and they may realise they are being bores!

Not bores, rude. So rude to comment on others’ faces/bodies.

I get this on my arms, and only my arms. People also say " you burnt yourself in the sun?'. No, it's coz I'm warm and I go super red but I'm warm!! I feel you!! Thinking of it, I haven't really had any comments recently.

Ugh, I get this too and have my whole life, even with a full face of make up it's so obvious because of how bright red I go when I flush. I hate it when people comment on it, I find it so rude and it makes me feel so small! If people can see you've gone red, surely that means you're feeling self-conscious or embarrassed about something so they just make it worse by pointing it out! Uggghhhhh!

Maybe you could say 'I never comment on another person's appearance, I CAN'T believe this is happening to me, and after all, I am polite to everyone. I would NEVER say this to anyone etc etc,' It shows them that they are rude, without you telling them.

I personally say 'would you like to say anything else to me'. Or I join in and say 'oh wow, I am desperately white, just like you said, and I keep saying, I am awfully white altogether. I keep going on about it, while staring at them. It makes them think twice before commenting again.

I usually don't get comments from French, German colleagues. I am more likely to get comments from fellow Irish colleagues who are sallow skinned, and want to show off about it. under the guise of I can't believe a fellow Irish person(who lives in Ireland all year round with 17c in summer) can be SO white.