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To have asked them to keep the noise down

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Lemonwoe · 19/06/2021 22:42

Tonight at 10pm I just got DS to sleep after much procrastination on his part . Get downstairs and outside my front is a bunch of young adults getting into their car but making a lot of noise (shouting, beeping the horn, just being very loud). I opened the door and whispered loudly “excuse me, can you avoid beeping the horn as I’ve just got the wean to sleep”. They said “oops, sorry, no problem missus” and quietly left.

My mum is staying with us and thinks I was stupid going out and asking them to be quiet; they could have attacked me or the house.

I had just assumed they would be reasonable and keep the noise down if asked.

Wibu?

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lardylegs123 · 19/06/2021 22:44

Are you in Glasgow, OP? Grin

I think you were in the right, and you clearly expressed yourself politely enough, which is reflected in their reaction.
A positive result all round, I'd say!

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Lemonwoe · 19/06/2021 22:46

@lardylegs123 I’m not currently! But I’m from Glasgow! Where they that loud that you heard them from there? In fairness I wouldn’t have done this if I thought they would be aggressive; they didn’t sound aggressive: just a bit over excited

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SteveArnottsEyebrows · 19/06/2021 22:48

I had a similar experience once. Had just got my baby DD to sleep when a group of teens decided to sit on my wall.

I went outside and politely asked them to sit somewhere else as DD was sleeping - they were very apologetic and moved on. No probs at all.

Sounds like you asked politely and they responded in the same manner.

lardylegs123 · 19/06/2021 22:49

It was just the language used in your OP.
It's nice Smile

ChampionOfTheSun · 19/06/2021 22:52

I'd have done the same, in fact I have done albeit pregnant rather than with a baby! There was a group of 16-18yro outside making a huge amount of noise around 11.30pm and I had to be up at 5am for work. It turned out I knew one of the lads as I used to be his manager before he left to start back at college, so it turned out fine, they were all very apologetic and moved on! My DH also thought I was totally mad for going outGrin

Rosewood017 · 19/06/2021 22:53

Not unreasonable at all! They probably appreciated the calm approach.

I was trying to get 6 month old DD off for a nap on a walk in her pushchair the other day. An old chap started talking to me about the widths of the pavements and reciting his letters to the council. I waited for a good point to finish the conversation but he didn't pause! I ended up walking off and said 'I must go I'm trying to get her to sleep!'. He was fine but I did feel the guilts.

ohdearjack · 19/06/2021 22:53

Perfectly reasonable, most people would say of course and move on quietly, it's just the odd arsehole that wouldn't. No you were fine, they were fine - and the wean is still sleeping I hope!

Rillington · 19/06/2021 22:59

Who or what is a wean?

Plump82 · 19/06/2021 23:02

@Rillington

Who or what is a wean?
Scottish word for child/baby
Caramelsmadfuzzytail · 19/06/2021 23:22

I frequently stick my head out of my window and ask people to go home. But in my case its 3am and they're usually pissed and talking loudly under my window.
I've only ever had one person get arsey at me and they staggered off pdq after I stuck my phone out and told them I'd ring the police.
Fortunately my sprog sleeps like a log, so is never disturbed.

TopBlogger · 19/06/2021 23:29

YWNBU at all, and you sound like you asked in such a lovely way, not aggressive at all.

I find it's my age group (45-55) that are so full of their rights/dont want to be told anything, they would have a go back - young ones on the whole are fine

RedactedTaeFeck · 19/06/2021 23:33

Particularly Glasgow/west coast. Its a bairn in the east.

I have to do this regularly and unfortunately I'm no longer polite. Neighbours teen is a selfish twat who thinks that only him and his pals matter. I now have a zero tolerance policy.

Funnylittlefloozie · 19/06/2021 23:34

I find the vast majority of people are cooperative if you ask them nicely. Of course there are always a few imbeciles, but honestly, most people are fine. You are NBU, and your mum is a bit U, but then she is your mum and probably worries herself daft about you speaking up to the wrong person and getting into a mess.

ForgedInFire · 19/06/2021 23:36

There were plenty of times that I was inconsiderate as a young adult because I just wasn't thinking of others but I would have adjusted my behaviour if asked directly. They might have been arseholes who unleashed abuse on you but I think 9 time out of 10 you would have got a similar result.

jamsponge40 · 19/06/2021 23:46

More times than I care to mention I'd love to shout "shut the fuck up ave just goat the wean doon"

Yes Scottish also....oh flowerrrr ah Scotland

jamsponge40 · 19/06/2021 23:47

You were not stupid. Just a normal person being pissed off

Travis1 · 20/06/2021 00:22

Not unreasonable at all. I don’t have any weans but still stuck the head out to two pals of the boy next door when they were getting their Buckie delivered at midnight and smashed a bottle at the back of the car. Had the boy next door come to
Apologise and say if they’d not cleaned it properly they’d sort it in the morning…..think he was feart id tell his mum and dad though 😬😂

Travis1 · 20/06/2021 00:22

*back of my car and being quite loud that should say

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Lemonwoe · 20/06/2021 11:24

@jamsponge40 that’s what I was saying in my head. But thought that I should be polite when asking lol

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