This is partly just another vent post about a useless OH, and sort of a genuine AIBU to see if others have a different perspective. I was 40 in November, and with restrictions being what they were at the time we couldn't do much. Me and DH had a nice posh takeaway, and made noises about doing something else when restrictions were lifted. I'd really like a night away somewhere on our own, I'm not a party kind of person, and as we have grandparents who could provide childcare it wouldn't be too difficult to organise. But as is typical of my DH, nothing has actually materialised since restrictions have been lifted, and we have no plans to do anything, despite me asking about it a few times. We haven't done anything as a couple without the kids in nearly a year, despite offers of childcare, opportunity is not the issue. Not a meal out, trip to the pub, nada. I feel like if we are going to have a weekend away, or do anything as a couple, I'm going to need to organise it, but I'm really pee'd off that I have to. Topputthis into context, my DH is terrible with birthdays. He's always late giving gifts, so the fact that he did organise anything at all for my birthday is something to be grateful for. My OH is generally great with the kids and he does his fare share of housework and childcare, but he's terrible at organising anything. I organise so much, pretty much everything in our lives that has to be organised, like kids activities, schools admin etc, and I just can't be arsed organising this too. But then I read so many horror stories on here about completely awful OHs, and my OH isn't like that at all, so maybe I should just let this slide? I've booked a nice spa day for myself when I know I won't need to have the kids, so that's something I suppose. It just makes me feel sad that he's not done anything yet for my 40th, and that he may well not plan anything. AIBU for feeling upset about this?