For sharing like this…

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Aibu for not liking it when someone replies to a share offer saying “oh just give me what you don’t want when you’re done!”

I can’t function like this. If I offer eg to share some of my cake I need to cut them off a chunk and then enjoy what’s left knowing ITS ALL MINE!!! Also means they get an unmangled bit of cake rather than the dregs and can also eat it at same time as me so seems more considerate and sociable to me???!

But apparently this makes me a very begrudging sharer and prescriptive?!

It’s not like a cheese fondue or a shared couple dessert where it’s romantic and “grab a fork and join in” … its them saying to hand them over the last bit however much that is ….

but if I do that I feel like I have unfinished business with my food and I resent handing it over and don’t enjoy eating any of it as always feeling guilty and self conscious of “fuck how much should I leave them?!?!” Ruins my food to do it this way and I want to rip their heads off with resentment the whole time rather than happily handing them over a chunk at the same time as the offer?! Which I genuinely would be happy to do

Am I a bastarding psychopath ?

I don't share!
They can but their fucking own!
Job done

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If you offer and they reply that way then I would just assume they want some and cut them some off/give them some. That way I wouldn’t feel like they are watching every mouthful.

Why are you sharing food like that?
Very odd. Just eat your own.

The correct response here is "But I want it all, so if you don't want any now I will finish it all myself".
The only food it would occur to me to offer a share of would be chips or dessert/chocolate, I don't mind people eating some chips but I have to like you a lot to offer sweet food and if the offer is not taken immediately it will be all gone in 30 seconds.....
I think people who do this want to convince themselves they didn't have any...it was only the leftovers after all so doesn't count....

Yes it’s only dessert stuff like in this case I had a massive slice of cake from a work bday and partner had none so when kids in bed offered him
Some as was plenty to split into two rather than sat stuffing my face in front of him 😂

I like that reply “well I want it all so there will be none left if I do that”

my point was I’d happily split it… but it’s that or nothing as I don’t want to eat something while having to save some from my plate at the end to hand over.