My father touched my sister

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My sister who's is 23 has stated that my father has touched her inappropriately one night, (in her thigh area and buttox) she said he did it when no one else was around. She is distraught she also said he asked her not to tell anyone and that it won't happen again. What do I do? I am older than her

Assuming this has happened recently I would support her in her own choices. I would definately support her to get out of the house if she lives with him and feels vulnerable or unhappy to remain. We need more information about the situation, family relationships, and vulnerabilities on both sides, to advise you appropriately. 💐

Thanks everyone for all the replies.
He has never done anything to her before (she states) and nothing to me.
It’s very out of the blue. I keep thinking if he was a pedophile or something on the lines of it wouldn’t he have done it to us when we were younger instead? Wouldn’t there be a pattern.
I believe my sister 100%. My sister has a past of lying but I don’t think she’s lying this time I can see it in her eyes.
She told my mum and my mum asked him to leave as he works away.
Now they are all acting like nothing ever happened.
He said he did it to my mum but “didn’t mean to do it”
He come home the weekends and they act like happy family.
It annoys me because it hurt me and I wouldn’t sleep for weeks.
I don’t live there. We have a younger sister. What if he does it to her?

I feel it’s not place anymore to say or do anything.
My sister also states that when he did touche her he asked her to go to the shed after, when it was dark to pick up something she left and she said that he put his two hands on her face as if he was going to kiss her and she ran inside. She told us about 12 hours later she was in an awful state

She’s 23 with learning difficulties so finds it hard to get a job etc.
My mum is a recovering alcoholic, sober over a year.
If you were to meet my dad you would think “no ways” he so small and fragile and quiet.
He’s nearly 60.

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I accept what people have said about supporting her decisions but even more since you have posted I think safeguarding your sister is more important. She told you because she trusts you, imo that means you need to protect her by any means as she is a vulnerable adult and your mum clearly is not capable of fully protecting her or she would not have them both in the house.
Bluntly, he could rape her, how will you pick up the pieces then?

I would contact adult social care in your area. Your sister is vulnerable and safeguarding is Everyone's business

Yep, in light of the extra information I think you do have to take this further, adult social care is probably the way to go.

There are charities that support adults who were abused in childhood.

e.g.

www.supportline.org.uk/problems/child-abuse-survivors/
napac.org.uk

These could help your sister. Helping her get professional support may be the best thing you can do for her.

@hellohellosailor

I would contact adult social care in your area. Your sister is vulnerable and safeguarding is Everyone's business

I agree with this, presuming your sister is eapeCilly vulnerable because of her learning disability.

Also you mentioned another younger sister? Is she under 18? If so report concern to children social care too.

This sounds so scary op. I’m sorry this is happening in your family.