To ask what would a fair split of housework be in these circumstances?

[doritodust]

Parent A - SE works FT Mon-Fri hours can vary anywhere from setting off at 6.30 am - 8am and coming home at anywhere between 5-6pm.
Parent B - works PT in the school hours Mon, Tue, Thu whilst youngest DC is at nursery. Does all the school runs / pick ups. Cooks dinner 90% of the time. Also does bits of work whilst looking after youngest DC Wed and Fri.

Both parents work in the evenings as soon as DCs are in bed to catch up and stay on top of things - at the moment not generating the income to warrant the hours but it is a long term thing and will definitely pay off / is vital for the future.

2 dcs under 7 so plenty to do.
No money for a cleaner everything has to be done by us.
No dishwasher so everything has to be done by hand - dishwasher not an option atm for various reasons.

Could anyone suggest what is a fair split of housework based on the above?
Everything from daily stuff like laundry, to cleaning the bathroom, to vacuuming, de-cluttering, deep cleans, garden and so on.

We are currently trying to work out the best plan of action as the house is getting crazy.

What are each of you good at? What do each of you hate doing? Start from there and work your way through a list of jobs…..on top of that if each of you tidy as you go (kitchen worktops, picking up discarded socks or whatever) it should work itself out. I do think it’s better however to have defined jobs that the other doesn’t get involved in rather than half a job each that way you can do your job whenever/however you want without it impacting on your partner.

Thanks , the thing is we are both terrible at housework.
We would much rather just both have a list of stuff that's ''our responsibility'' otherwise it just takes up too much mindspace.

We are just struggling to work out what amounts we could both do considering the working hours/ childcare etc.

I’d expect B to spend the difference between the hours they work less than A on the housework and then split what’s left if needed.

Lots don’t have cleaners or dishwashers but it doesn’t take hours a day to clean especially when out at work so no one home to make a mess.

I'd expect a to do drop offs and b to do pick ups. A to cook Fri-Sunday. B could do laundry as they are in more but A could put out the bins do bed and bath time Friday-Sunday. Dh and I have 2 kids aged 5 and 3 and are expecting a 3rd. I work part time and he is full time. We don't necessarily have our own jobs but rather do them on different days. We don't have a cleaner and although we have a dishwasher we don't tend to use it unless we have a party ( dishes in a house of 4 don't take long to do).

In our house we would split it so;

When parent B was off, they did as much as they reasonably could. Given they are working a bit, just to keep on top of it.

Then a weekend morning would be for both parents to catch upon bits left over. Parent A would also chip in on days they are home earlier.

Cooking and daily chores. Person who is more available to do pick ups would do them. Then cooking would be who has time.

In our house we don't have a set schedule. My ds, isn't my partners. But he reduced his hours as I took a promotion that I really wanted.

During the week, he is usually home to cook dinner, if he need to catch up on work and I am home I will do it. If laundry or bathroom or whatever needs doing, whoever has 10 mins does it.

We don't really have a set jobs. We look at week to week, make sure ds is sorted and whoever is home gets bits done so most of the weekend is more relaxing. Basically mon-fri is about getting making sure our weekends together, without spending it all catching up.

On the flip side, as I travel for work, I may get back early, so I go get ds so dp can gets bits done and have some chill time before we get back.

We just try and tackle it as a team, depending on what's going on. If dp was at home catching up on work and I was meant to be getting ds, but was going to be late back, he would have no issue getting him. If I am back early, I have no problem doing jobs dp was going to do and doing dinner.

I'd expect B to be doing housework while A is at work. Then anything else that needs doing gets split equally. Then both are doing the same amount of "work".