WWYD friend always inviting themselves round?

[chronicallyfedup]

I like my friend before anyone says I don't. She's a good person just very clingy.

She is constantly inviting herself over and it's getting to much. Say I see her on the Monday she'll Chuck in as she's going out of the door "I'll see you tomorrow and come over." And leaves before I get a chance to say anything.
This wouldn't be a issue normally but I'm currently going through a lot medical wise with a unknown neurological condition that's being looked into, it makes socialising very hard and even the simplest of tasks I can't do .
I'm not well at all, and every day is a massive challenge for me by 4/5 pm I'm ready for bed, I can't even leave the house without it being a struggle.
Last time she was here she said she believed she had the same medical issues as me as she googled her symptoms (which is a bit strange in itself and she seems perfectly fine in herself) but even if she did, you'd think she'd have the understanding that I don't have the Energy to be entertaining her every evening.

I've tried telling her I'll let her know when I'm up for visitors as I need to concentrate on getting myself better but she still insists or complains that she misses me even if she's seen me 2-3 times that week.
I just don't know how to get through to her that she's expecting to much of me. :(

And of course you could add, "given you think you have the same symptoms as me you'll understand the tiredness involved"

I am sorry you are unwell OP but you sound really wet.

In the scenario you described, I would text her saying "No, please do not come around tomorrow, I need some time and space for myself. I am free next Wednesday for lunch but not before then." (assuming you want to see her at all)

Then if she comes over anyway just don't answer the door. She is a boundary buster. You have to stand up to her or cut her off completely.

When she says that, say no! Don’t let her walk all over you.

She knows full well she's pushing her luck; the way she tells you she's coming the next day as a parting shot as she hastily exits tells you that she doesn't want to hear "I'm sorry, can't do tomorrow". She's afraid you'll say "No" given half a chance (be fair, that's the truth!)
So that leaves the excellent suggestions made by PP's: texting before she assumes it's OK, and not answering the door if she ploughs on regardless.

She's not a good friend, then. She's selfish, un-self-aware and self-absorbed (thinking she has the same illness as you do)! You're going to have to be really firm with her.

Get settled in your bedroom at the time she would come round and dont answer the door