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AIBU?

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Just AIBU????

10 replies

Cherryberrybonbon · 17/06/2021 22:46

I just want to know what other people think really, am I or not??

I have suffered for years with anxiety and often let other peoples moods affect me, like thinking they must be in a mood because I’ve done something, it’s an issue I have and once someone seems to get to me I find it really hard to let things go. As much as I try I can’t because I take things personally.

Now my partner, we’ve been together 8 years have three kids. Through lockdown he, like many others has become a creature of bad habits and our house is becoming like Groundhog Day every week. He likes a drink on a Wednesday, and last week went to the pub and came back with his mate, despite me saying no it’s Wednesday and the kids have school in the morning. 4:30am the music was still going, in and out smoking generally making a row even though they were trying to be quiet. Had to keep 2 kids off school because they had been woken up so many times.

Now this kind of behaviour with the music is making me dislike him, I think it’s really selfish, he’s becoming hard work and making the house a bit of a misery for no reason at all. If I try and bring the matter up he tells me I’m overreacting or he bites my head off/gets snappy at me for having a go at him. I just feel like I’m getting to the point of no return with regards to him pissing me off every week.

You might think I sound like a bit of a grouch, I’m not I promise, I love a good night in or out, just not every week on the same day doing the same thing just drinking and listening to the same music!

It’s really starting to get me down, putting me off sex and everything just cause of his general moody attitude, it’s hard work trying to keep everyone happy when no ones bothered about me happy. Can I hear some of your stories to help me get through this shitty time xx

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Motnight · 17/06/2021 22:56

It's awful that his drinking meant that your kids were unable to go to school. This isn't normal. What was his reaction to thay?

xprincessxjanetx · 17/06/2021 23:01

YANBU.

I would be furious, especially as you have young children in the house. Height of irresponsibility.

TableDesk · 17/06/2021 23:02

You are being unreasonable to even try to get through this. Get rid of him! He sounds a complete waste of space!

Cherryberrybonbon · 17/06/2021 23:03

He didn’t really say anything about them missing school, probably because he knew he was wrong. I just feel so frustrated and like I said it’s making me really dislike him, I was besotted with him for years and I feel like he’s killing it for us.

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reader12 · 17/06/2021 23:05

He’s a selfish brat. He sounds like a stupid teenager, this is not how a dad is supposed to behave.

PegasusReturns · 17/06/2021 23:06

Put your DC first and get rid of him. Your DC missing school because of his drinking is awful.

Cherryberrybonbon · 17/06/2021 23:07

It’s just the thought of having to split my time with my kids, I’d hate not having them every day I hate been away from them.

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DownWhichOfLate · 17/06/2021 23:09

It doesn’t sound like he would want to spend time with them if you split up.

Cherryberrybonbon · 17/06/2021 23:13

Oh no trust me he would, like a possession that’s his. He would be a nightmare, he’s the type of person who’s always right, he won’t be told and I just don’t want to put them through it

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Aquamarine1029 · 17/06/2021 23:15

Your partner is a fucking twat. He's worse than having another child.

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