To think these are so often red flags? Older men/ young women

[Tashkentmoon]

Awful story in the news tonight.
Got me thinking about how often these things are huge red flags, or am I wrong?
-older men that impregnate women who are far younger. (10 years or more)

• older men that like their young partner to live in an isolated location while they work away in a highly paid/ powerful job.

I’d be devastated if my daughter got into a serious relationship with a man ten years older while she’s still young , and totally gutted if he got her pregnant. I’d move hell and high water to ensure he didn’t encourage her to move to the countryside , or abroad, with a young baby and away from her support network. Regardless of how amazing that life looked on the surface.
But I learned the hard way, I was that young woman. My parents thought it was all fantastic, a nice older man/ plenty of money. He was in fact, a very dangerous person behind closed doors (entirely contrary to his public persona)
My daughter would see this scenario as very romantic, I’m sure .

In my personal experience - yes, ex was 12 years older and abusive. Luckily for me and the dc he failed at getting me to sell up and travel the world with him and 4dc in a motor home, he was arrested and I was able to get away before that little plan was enacted.

I'm quite sure that relationships with wide age gaps can work perfectly well though. In fact in my family there have been some very successful and healthy ones.

Yes to me it is always a red flag.

Decent men do not pursue much younger women

I also see men who fantasise about jacking everything in to travel the world in a motor home or alternatively renovate some shack abroad as big walking red flags @BewareTheBeardedDragon.
It’s a type of recklessness that I found romantic until I understood the intention behind it. Now I see it as incredible frightening. Especially men who want to do this with lots of children in tow. I’m sure there are exceptions.