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Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 16:31

my mother passed away last month after suffering a long term illness. I cared for her for years without support from her 5 other sons. one other son has tried pressuring me into coming to house that mum owned and that i currently live in. The first twice he claimed he wanted to come to see bills to make sure i wouldnt get cut off the third he claimed it was for photos of my fathers brother (my dad passed away in december) which seems strange as this brother lives 2 hours away in other side of country whereas my dads brother only lives a few minutes away in same town. now same broother is claiming he wants to come to house to help me clear out mothers furniure as he supposedly believes that id like to make my own stamp on the house by getting own furniture knowing full well that im on benefits i was told during this conversation that happened today wed never be freinds as we havent been on speaking terms for 20 years so im thinking why on earth would you now be willing to offer any help as i had asked for his help when mother when mum was living i was told to wind my neck in and stop playing victim also told me he was glad to move away from our mother it was best decision he ever made this was in january when mum was told she didnt have long to live and i said i wasnt coping. Today this brother claims that he along with other members had offered to help yet i had refused I then told a couzin what was said regarding the furniture of mothers house i was told by this couzin that all she had was of her mothers was some oraments and all her brother got was a piece of jewellery. Seems strange that they both seem to have this attitude that i should be happy with having a roof over my head yet have nothing to furnish it with i also feel that this same couzin is relaying stuff to my brother nothing i can prove just gut instinct

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osbertthesyrianhamster · 17/06/2021 16:35

I would stop contact with them entirely. 'No. I don't want you to visit. If you show up I won't let you in.'

Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 16:36

ill ignore any phone calls or messages from now i was just curious as to what others thought i cant understand how family can be like that specially when they sat on theyre backside and let me do all the work

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SleepingStandingUp · 17/06/2021 16:37

I'm sorry for your loss @Moondust1973

Do you know how the estate is set to be split? Has the will been read yet?

TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER · 17/06/2021 16:39

I’m sorry for your loss.

Money is what turns people like this, it’s very sad but it happens in a lot of families after a death.

Forestdweller11 · 17/06/2021 16:41

I'd say it was money, and that they were hoping to snaffle a few bits and generally have a nosey round.

What is he status of the house? Is it now yours? Is there a will? Has probate been granted.

Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 16:41

well im executor of will so i know all brothers are entitled to is a share of money in mums savings which i cant do anything about thats scots law i also know ive been left house mum owned but this brother is under impression that it will be split 50/50 between me and him i havent let on otherwise ill let lawyer tell him that i dont believe that theyre entitled to anything in house either but ill check with lawyer about that next thursday as i have an appointment with him but so far lawyer has said all the other sons are entitled to are a share of her savings

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Motnight · 17/06/2021 16:42

Op I know from your other threads that you have a lot going on at the moment. Honestly you need to make life as simple as possible for yourself.

SleepingStandingUp · 17/06/2021 16:43

Why does 1 son assume he's getting 50% and the other nothing? Is this the one who's visiting? I'd say he's scoping out what valuables you light sell or hide

Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 16:49

the other son who i spoke to today said he was told 30 years ago by parents that he would get half of house id get other half this was when they were on speaking terms but hadnt spoke for 20 years and mum told me the will had been changed because there had been no contact with this other brother he hadnt helped them and as far as my parents were concerned it should be mine after what i had done for them and they considered it my home

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Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 16:51

mote ill block his number and let lawyer deal with them i get the impression theres no trust from them anyway - any of brothers and they seem to be out for them self

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Motnight · 17/06/2021 16:57

That sounds like a good plan.

Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 17:02

i just understand how selfish and shady people are hes going to get a four figure sum for sitting on his backside and doing nothing but thats not enough

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Moondust1973 · 17/06/2021 17:06

ok ill try andrelax and wat h a good film and cheer myself up

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