I’ve had a disagreement with my husband over this & I don’t know if I should eat humble pie but this situation is so bloody frustrating.
Nearly 6 year old DS has massive separation anxiety with his dad. DH works shifts 7-7 2 days & 2 nights then 6 off. He gets a huge amount of time with the children, much more than your average dad. He sees DS when he comes home from work for bedtime & obviously for nights he’ll see him in the morning when he gets home & also evening for a few hours before work.
DH has always said how much he dislikes going to work, he wants to stay at home with DS, he misses DS etc which I feel has really fed into this anxiety. After the worse night we’ve had (DS crying for hours wanting one of us there & crying about his dad going to work, still not asleep at 12 and up at 5 shouting out of the window when DH had left the house) I’m just so frustrated at this situation & I'm telling DH to stop being so silly & making a big deal out of going to work FFS. It’s work, it’s normal, everyone goes to bloody work.
This has been going on for about a year now. He isn’t like this with me at all but the difference is I work from home so although not there, I’m in the house. I’m currently on mat leave and have been since March so I guess I currently don’t work. DH thinks he’s like this because I’m always there so he expects DH to be too & it’s not DH’s fault as he does tell him he has to go to work & reasons why etc etc.
AIBU?
Also, how the hell can we help this? Do you have any practical tips? It’s just gotten worse & worse. DS was in with me & the baby at 5.30 this morning. I stayed with him last night for a while trying to console him while DH got a shower. I really don’t know where to go with this & neither does DH.
As fo not drip feed he is a sensitive child & I was too, I remember crying at the school gate not wanting my mum to leave well into junior school…