Teacher bragging post… AIBU ?

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So we have a online learning platform for all the kids at my child’s school. We get send messages about their learning , photos of what they have been doing and class message for all about things like pe days and book bag days …

Tonight we have all been sent a message to our child’s learning platform about a child in the same class as my son on being a absolute star for reading 100 books on the platform..

Fab! Great!

But …

Why is this being announced to all parents ? This is the child of the class lead parent ( she’s on the PTA, her son got the lead part of the show at Christmas , she set up the wattsapp, she’s very hands on) never before has there been a message regarding another child’s achievements being shared with us all since they started school…

I just think it’s a shitty move on their part
The most important person to see this would be the child and his parents so makes sense to send it on his learning platform surely ?

I also think it’s insensitive to some of the parents who might read this and be worried that their child cannot it has not hit that milestone ( I’m not talking about my child I’m happy where he is at )

AIBU to think this

Is this typical of schools?

We had the same at our school but it was over the last summer holidays. It was on the school news bulletin that we all get emailed.

We spent the entire summer paddle boarding on the lake at the back of our house. Each to there own...

Ah so it is a thing then ! First time I’ve ever seen a post like this since he started about another child

YABU

and frankly who cares. The constant race to the bottom must be exhausting.

Teacher probably clicked some form of send all button that's right next to a send button. Accidental I'd bet.

So is this something set up by a parent on WhatsApp, not official from the school but someone posts reminders etc...or is it officially from school?

Our school did congratulations messages on Google classroom during lockdown for individual children who'd completed the accelerated reader things, I don't know if that is in any way similar to this or not.

Does it matter? Just be pleased for the child & move on. Has it hit a nerve for some reason?

Would irritate me. YANBU.

We get emailed the star of the week... Not sure why this is any worse?

Celebrating achievement normalises it.

Maybe the other kids haven't reached an achievement on there as high as that? It's okay to celebrate children when they've done something right, no matter who their parent is. If parents have concerns about their children's development, a message like that shouldn't be what makes them notice.

Our school tweeted a photo of some kids who got full marks in their spelling test and congratulated them for practising at home. I think it's fine - it's a school; they like to see academic effort and attainment!

clutches pearls God forbid academic achievements should be celebrated!

Is it not allowed to celebrate achievement any more?

Heaven forbid the school newsletter should celebrate the pupil who makes the national trampolining squad, or gets into the national youth orchestra, or wins a writing competition.

I'd imagine the school are posting this to highlight the availability of books on ths platform and their hope of inspiring more of the pupils to make use of that resource, as well as to acknowledge a particularly hard working child. It is irrelevant to the child's achievement that their parent is on the pta .

Why is it a bad thing that this child's mum is hands on? Schools desperately need more parents to volunteer for the pta, help out, and most importantly support learning at home.

You just sound a little bitter/jealous tbh OP.

I'm on the fence. If no other child has ever received recognition and it's the same child being praised/ given the lead/ blah blah then YANBU.

We had a child in DDs class who was constantly raised up above the others which got really tedious. Even the kids noticed and started eye rolling and shrugging when the child won yet another accolade for being... mediocre/ same as everyone else. Just roll your eyes and move on.

Lots of school celebrate the 100 book thing. It’s just a positive way to encourage all children to read as much as they can and hopefully enjoy it!

'there' ????? Clearly academics don't matter in your house grin. Fanning about on fibreglass is for dullards grin

oh touch a nerve did I ?

Our school is awful for this. I just ignore it (so much so when my child got star of the week or some such I didn’t realise until another parent mentioned it ).

To me, learning is good because it’s good to be able to read and add up and learn cool facts. I’m not interested in my child’s position in some school league table. It’s competitive nonsense and honestly I think the excess of this has contributed to self harming teens; and mental health issues.

Love the poster who was paddle boarding all summer. That’s what childhood is made for.

My DCs school always celebrates achievements in and out of school. This week tweets and posting encouragement to a girl in Yr3 competing in a county sports event she’d work hard to get to the finals of. Every week the kids get a chance to talk about things they have done regardless of how big or small, swimming achievements, rainbows badge, winning the local supermarket colouring competition…. It dosnt have to be necessarily winning, one girl brought in a box of veg she’d grown in hew own veggie patch on her Grandads allotment.

Pre covid they were done in the school assembly once a week which parents could attend, now it’s done in virtual assemblies and posted on school apps and sites. It’s nice for the children especially those who don’t always win things in school.

I'm not sure I'd call this a "teacher bragging post".

Schools will celebrate achievements, yes. Odd if no other child has ever had anything celebrated at your DC's school (really?), but perhaps they're changing that. It would be a poorer world if we couldn't celebrate someone's achievement just because others would find it hard or impossible to achieve themselves.

Our school is awful for this. I just ignore it (so much so when my child got star of the week or some such I didn’t realise until another parent mentioned it blush ).

Why is the school awful for celebrating children's achievements?

In the case of the OP if there's never been a post before now that has been shared with everyone, then it's likely to be an accident.

You sound a bit over-invested in the achievements of other people's children. So the child is an avid reader and good at acting. That's great!

My child has a pupil whose parent is also a teacher at the same school and in the same year. It was a known fact the child always receives preferential treatment and put on a pedestal by the teacher, it's not the child's fault so I just roll my eyes at it. However, during the homeschooling via teams this particular child was the only one to get feedback and praise every every single day for all to see, every other child was bypassed and ignored and it was pretty demoralising to see when everyone was trying their best. I actually felt embarrassed on behalf of the teacher doing it. However, our school does do achiever of the week for each class and it gets published in the school newsletter which I do enjoy seeing.

Maybe it was some sort of competition or an achievement they were all encouraged to aim for. Despite being told all about it, only one child actually went ahead and completed it, so deserves a bit of recognition maybe. I couldn't muster the energy to be angry or jealous of a little kid I don't think.

Of course it's not a thing.