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Would you go to the police over this neighbour?

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Onewayoranother88 · 16/06/2021 14:11

I live in a block of studio flats in a large converted house.
Around a month ago, a guy moved in who looked early to mid 20s.
Haven't really had any conversation with him apart from hello, but he often stands at the front having a beer and a cigarette and seems to be out of work.
Anyway one day we heard the loudest, creepiest manic laughter I had ever heard.
Then over the next few days, he was literally shrieking and screaming,and I mean at top note, various obscenities. It was like he was screaming at somebody one mile away. "DO IT AGAIN DICKHEAD!!!!!" "FUCKING PRICK!!!"

He did this a few times over a couple of weeks, it always sounded like it was aimed at somebody. But it was the loudest screaming we had ever heard.

I have never seen anyone like this before, it's hard to know if he's talking to somebody, or what he's doing, but seems to have clear anger issues.

The scariest thing came this morning, we heard what sounded like building work downstairs. Then we realised it was him banging in his flat, smashing it up and screaming top note by the sounds of it.
We have a WhatsApp group and other tenants were writing asking what was going on, saying they were scared and it sounded like somebody was getting hurt.
My boyfriend and i recorded him on our phones smashing the room up and shrieking and sent it to our landlord, along with a recount of what had happened since he moved in.
The landlord arrived and apparently had a word with him where he apologised for it.
Then, later on today however he just started shrieking again, this time in the hallway.

Not sure what to do, maybe he is mentally unwell, I've never seen this before. I'm not just talking about a bit of shouting, the guy is absolutely manic. I feel scared to live here, should we go to the police?

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RaginaFalangi · 16/06/2021 15:05

I would contact the police, me and dp lived in a block of flats a few years ago and the guy who lived up at the top flat went through an episode of doing something similar and the police had to be called out because he started throwing things out his window while it was not open.

MilduraS · 16/06/2021 15:23

I hadn't thought of gaming until a PP suggested it but it's a good theory. My DH is really laid back until he starts playing FIFA. I've had to remind him several times how unpleasant it is to sit here listening to him stomping and swearing at the top of his voice. If he didn't use his PC for work I'd probably have hidden it by now. Thankfully he's at the opposite side of the house to the neighbours but I do wonder if they think it's us having a fight.

Still worth reporting in case that's not it. My sister has bi-polar and technically has a case worker who's supposed to visit regularly and provide support. It's lapsed several times over the years and I've had to intervene to get her back on their radar. Without regular professional monitoring she tends to go off her meds and get into a state.

EmeraldShamrock · 16/06/2021 15:26

I'd contact the police too.

WeatherwaxOn · 16/06/2021 15:39

From how you describe things he sounds as though he is having mental problems. A friend of mine occasionally has autistic meltdowns which involve shouting, throwing/destroying things, and harming themselves.
Unfortunately they have very little support locally and the police have been called to their home in the past.
Recently they had a change of medication and it had a very adverse behavioural effect.

Obviously the LL can't divulge person information about tenants but in this case, the behaviour of one is scaring many. It sounds as though they need some help, but equally it is not up to you or your neighbours to provide it.

TeensArghh · 16/06/2021 15:49

It could very well be gaming or he’s mentally unwell. Either way you shouldn’t have to put up with it. Call the police. Let them do a check on him. If he needs mental health care they can get the ball rolling.

Fairyflaps · 16/06/2021 15:58

It sounds as though he is unwell. Calling the police is the easiest way for you as a neighbour to get him the help he needs. Ideally the police wouldn't be triage for people with severe mental health problems, but they will know how to contact the relevant services (e.g crisis psych/ social work teams) if for example he is having a psychotic episode or has come off his meds.
It is scary for you. It is probably terrifying for him as well. There is also the risk that he could self-harm.

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