Be thankful it wasnt,that you are alive,healthy and you are going to live life to its fullest now.
Your family are thinking negatively,you don't need that,life is infinitely more precious than money.
Have a fantastic future 🌈😊💐
I'm torn between thinking this is patronising drivel or just pure naivety.
This thread has shown the incredible void of understanding as to how awful dealing with incidents of medical negligence is for all the victims.
When things like this happen, there is a full cycle of grief. Grief for the life you had, grief for the life you won't have. You cry for so many reasons. You cry for your children, your family, your friends. You cry for yourself. You swing between so many emotions of relief, depression, gratitude, sadness, and incredible anger. Anger over what happened, anger at what was taken, anger that the future that was meant to be will never be. Pure, raw anger.
None of it is pretty. Ever. Victims of medical negligence cannot sanitise their grief so that into a package that society will accept far more readily, They cannot wear their grief like a Scottish Widow's hooded cape. There is no glamorous way to dress up the depth of hurt and loss that they've experienced.
And the victims of medical negligence are far more than the immediate patient. The family whose feelings you've so easily dismissed are also significant victims of what has happened. There is a ripple effect from all such instances - medical negligence experiences are harrowing and enduring experiences for so many people.
It's unrealistic to expect people to focus on only the positive. You can appreciate the positive when you acknowledge the negative. It's only possible to be thankful for it not being cancer when you appreciate how bad it would have been had that not been the case. The OP, her family and friends had to not only face a cancer diagnosis, but deal with treatment, and ongoing management of those treatments, only to learn the aggressiveness of the approach may not have been necessary. She faced how bad things were going to be, and now it appears that may have all been unnecessarily.
When incidents of medical negligence occur, no medical professional rushes forth with the Giant Book of Open and Honest Disclosure. Often, no medical professional gives you full facts, or volunteers extra information. Often, no medical professional tells you they're sorry they made a mistake. Often, no medical professional tells you how they'll earn from the experience.
Instead, you ask questions that aren't answered. Often, medical professionals avoid meeting you. Often, medical professionals use medical language to try to disarm you as you ask your questions. Often medical professionals close ranks - they protect their own.
And so, your only course of action is to sue. You sue to get answers. You sue to have the harm done to you and your loved ones acknowledged. You sue so that lessons may be learned and it not happen to someone else. And through it all, you are presented by many as money-grabbing, taking from a cash-strapped service, self-interested, ungrateful for what you have, and possibly a liar.
Life is infinitely more precious than money. But suing is not always about the money. In the absence of honesty, integrity, transparency, suing buys access to facts, and most valuable of all, recognition of the harm done.