Introverts and extroverts should not have to live next door to one another

[Spidermanssecretary]

Just that really. 90% of NDN problems on here are based around people not understanding why others want visitors or bbqs or make noise. I feel a solution would be a personality test before estate agents will consider you, and fitting your personality to an area.

So true! Both sides are introverts, as are we, and it all works well

Nice idea Not sure how it would work in practice but I like the sentiment!

doubt they will turn down the price of a house just because someone doesn't like bbq's!

money is money with house sales!

What about those of us in mixed marriages?

Our household is both introvert and extrovert, would we get some sort of separate neighbourhood?

90% of NDN problems on here are based around people not understanding why others want visitors or bbqs or make noise

I work in housing. No they aren't.

This has to be one of the stupidest reductive assumptions I've seen on here. I don't think you even understand what you are talking about

I don’t think the OP is being entirely serious

I’m an introvert who lives with an extrovert, try that!

Generally everyone needs to be more realistic about the amount of noise etc they will hear from neighbours.

I don’t think you know what introvert and extrovert mean.

I’m introverted, I recharge with peace and quiet on my own. Doesn’t mean I’m antisocial and I love a good bbq.

Yep, mandatory Myers Briggs testing along with mortgage/tenancy applications.

You can be an extrovert who also likes peaceful time in their home or garden?!

I would say I'm an introvert but I don't object to neighbours having music on, parties, visitors or screaming kids.
Barking dogs however drive me round the bend!

Being extrovert has nothing to do with being loud.

I'm extroverted but I need peace and quiet at home. My intoverted husband and I both love to have friends over in the back garden occasionally and we are both very considerate towards our neighbours.

Why the assumption that people are introverts if they don't want to have to listen to every fart from next door?
I can only assume you're one of the noisy bastards, op 😂

I’ve touted this idea on here many times.

In my head it’s great but it won’t work.

Because loud NDN will always trump quiet NDN. Quiet people don’t infringe on loud ones but vice versa it doesn’t work.

Me reading my book quietly doesn’t aggravate anyone. But if when I read my book my neighbours could all hear the words in their head it would be really annoying for them. If that was the case I’d wear ‘special’ headphones to prevent them hearing it, or take it indoors.

I just expect the same in return. My peace/things I enjoy doesn’t ruin everyone else’s ‘enjoyment’, so why should their ‘enjoyment’ ruin mine, or expect to be my enjoyment too?

and then all the mumsnetters kids grow up....and are opposite to their parents....and neighbours...

We had a neighbour who would knock on our door and invite us round when she was having people round.

She was a lovely girl but the introvert in me found it horrifying. Though she sounded as though she threw a cracking party.

Someone's always going to have to give way. I'm an extrovert, I want to listen to music all day and have guests over 24/7. I don't because this would be hell for my quiet neighbours. Wouldn't it be better to put all the loud people together?

@Spidermanssecretary

Someone's always going to have to give way. I'm an extrovert, I want to listen to music all day and have guests over 24/7. I don't because this would be hell for my quiet neighbours. Wouldn't it be better to put all the loud people together?

But people only want their own loudness, not other people's.

Introverts are not shy, people hating folk who despise hearing other people have a good time.
YABU to not know what introvert and extrovert means.

And all the MNers who post long rant threads about NDNs but end it with 'but I don't like confrontation so can't go round'.

Being assertive doesn't mean you 'like' confrontation

Fabulous idea OP, there could be I and A streets, or even while little villages!!!! And perhaps when you're young you get tested,
identified and presented with the option to move or train in how to be I or A. Ahhhh, peace!

I’d consider myself an extrovert. It doesn’t preclude you from being considerate of others.