To find it a little strange when friends talk about their 'besties'

[Moofart]

One of my friends who I see regularly always refers to her 'besties' in conversation. I definitely don't have an issue with her having best friends, (I also have a friend I'm closest too who I would consider my 'best' friend) but it sometimes feels a little like she is saying, I like you and your company, but there are others I like better and prefer the company of. Is it a tad insensitive? Fully prepared to be told I'm being ridiculous (I'm averaging about 3 hours sleep a night thanks to my baby)!

I agree with you

I don't find It particularly insulting personally. My friends have other friends that they've known longer or who they are closer to but I kind of like it that way. It's been years since I've had a close friend that I would call a bff and that is through choice , I don't like to get tangled up in people's lives.

If she always refers to them that way, it sounds juvenile.

I don't ever refer to the friendship hierarchy in the presence of people who are not at the top of said friendship hierarchy. I think it's mildly uncomfortable for the other person, even if there is no jealousy etc.

Slightly lighthearted

I find the whole x is my best friend slightly weird in adults. For me it seems childlike. Maybe as I don’t have one and never had a best friend at school it’s seems strange

Yeah I feel the same! Takes me right back to primary school and feeling left out. I value all my friends. One does always start with the 'my best friend' stuff when it's somebody's birthday or wedding on Facebook, she must have about ten best friends though because it's constant. But it's never me which is a bit rubbish because I've known her for 20 years and she's always trying to bitch about these other best friends when I meet her! Tbh I keep her at arms length now because god knows what she's saying about me to them so maybe she's picked up on that and that's why I don't get bestie status.

Your friend sounds like an 8 year old 🙄

It's fine until you're at secondary school.

It's one of those expressions, like famalam and hollibobs, that really irritates me.

And it reminds me of wee beasties.

I hear you. It’s pointless to make it clear you’re further down the friend chain. Just say a friend or an old friend!