Ds 6 pull ups at night

[Littlelegs2]

ds is 6. He has autism. And in pull ups at night. AIBU to think its not a big deal. ?
His dad keeps making comments about it. And gets funny about ds having extra help at school and assessments for a possible 121. Ds was having assessments for autism since he was 2.5 has 6 now and was Diagnosed in February.

My dd is autistic and is still in nappies at night time, actual huge nappies not even pull ups and she’s almost 8, she’s not long since been dry during the day so reckon she won’t be dry at night until much older either.

Your son could not wear them at night and wet his bed every night and his dad can change wet, smelly sheets if he’d prefer.

Honestly op, ignore every stupid comment, at least your son is getting support. His dad would probably complain if he didn’t get any help so you can’t really win!

Is it a case of him not believing your son is autistic?

@monkeytenniss I am ever so sorry- DS doesn't have a diagnosis but is probably on the spectrum. Under community paediatric assessment at the moment. Is that better? Thank you for adding value.

@Actuallyabitgreynow

It's not a big deal. My DS isn't autistic (although probably is on the spectrum) and still wears them at night at 4.5 and I'm not remotely concerned. Maybe if in a year he is still in them, seek out some support, but if he's not ready then he's not ready.

"My DS isn't autistic (although probably is on the spectrum)"

That makes absolutely no sense.

@TruJay

My dd is autistic and is still in nappies at night time, actual huge nappies not even pull ups and she’s almost 8, she’s not long since been dry during the day so reckon she won’t be dry at night until much older either.

Your son could not wear them at night and wet his bed every night and his dad can change wet, smelly sheets if he’d prefer.

Honestly op, ignore every stupid comment, at least your son is getting support. His dad would probably complain if he didn’t get any help so you can’t really win!

Is it a case of him not believing your son is autistic?

I don't think he does believe it. He's never really discussed it with me. Never wants to read any of his reports.

His ex showed his daughters how to claim sick benefits for depression. So I think. That he thinks. I set it up so I can get DLA for my son. I'm clever like that I can get the peadatrition to say that my son has autism and on top of that can get the school to say he has learning difficulties. Even though I don't even see him at school.

Please tell your DH my eldest was in pull ups until he was 9 and his dad was until 12 and his dad around the same age when he was little (his dad and granddad are both Drs). It's hormonal, none of us care. My eldest just had to wait for the right hormones to come in so it triggered him to wake up at night when he pee'd. No big deal. Second kiddo was out of pull up pants years earlier, we did nothing different, he just woke up at nights and knew he needed the bathroom and got it almost instantly.

If your DS has autism it's a difference, nothing worse, just a difference so education has to be different, too, and that's great. Mainstream isn't right for everybody. I know you know this, but your DH seems to be sensitive about it. I'm glad you got a diagnosis this year.