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To just want to catch an effing break?!

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Adviseme2021 · 13/06/2021 15:43

Is it always this hard with toddlers?
Why am I doing wrong?

Managed to do a second massive turd on the floor mid nappy change and then got it on every limb.. and me as I carried him to the bath for a hose down. 7am bleaching the bath yay.

Beach morning - there by 8:30am (DC usually naps around 11-11:30 so morning beach means few hours then kip in the car on way home) good, all going well (except the fact he constantly tried to climb inside other people’s bags?!) we stay until 11 when he looks tired and he, like clockwork fell asleep in the car on the way home.

Got home at 12:00 and we all had dinner, well DC just spent the entire time trying to climb out of his chair then I gave up and stood him at the sofa where he had a few more bits but then just dropped it and stood in it. Then put his elbows in it on the sofa and pulls my drink out of my hand all over me 😬icey cold water in my crevices.

Try to sit in the garden (which isn’t really safe because he climbs everything so we are ok pins the whole time!!! And it’s steep) so put a fence type thing across the dangerous parts to keep him contained with climbing frame us and an umbrella so cool something to do and we’re there too.. and he just cries, tries to climb the fence, eats bark, cries some more, we go back inside. Have a drink and calm down, change his nappy and leave him in a vest. Sit down (I’m 7m pregnant so PGP is also agony and bending over feels like my uterus is going to pop)… does another poop, 5 seconds after sitting down after after last nappy change, argh the timing!

The fence we usually have keeping tv stand safe is now outside and we’re all inside hot and sweaty and generally getting pretty miserable at this point, soon as he sees it he tried swinging off the tv/tv stand so DP goes outside brings the fence back in and puts it in front of the TV. DC has a little play with some toys on the mat. Goes up for a nap.

Whilst he’s napping with DP I go get him a paddling pool, he loves water, set it up and in the space of me going to the shop the dog has taken two massive dumps on the grass right where the paddling pool will go, so I clean them up and then go get the hose pipe on to hose it down, fill paddling pool and it bursts… all over next door washing on the line whilst they’re sat in the garden. Awkward.

So now I’m sat next to DC in a dark room whilst he naps. Hoping that this isn’t what it’ll always be like🤕. He’s just over 1 so soon we’ll have two, is every 1 and a bit yo always trying to climb things, I mean everything, you cannot sit down for a minute at all all day because within those 60 seconds he’ll be swinging off a door handle of something and winching his way over the baby gate. What did we do wrong? What are we not doing enough of with him?

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Nohomemadecandles · 13/06/2021 15:49

Just toddlers, I'm afraid. You need your wits about you.

Mine are only 15 months apart. They are now 9 & 10. You've a few years ahead of needing eyes in the back of your head, army sized nappy bags & three hours prep just to leave the house but when it stops, it stops pretty much for both! And it's worth it.

Today's just a bad day. You made it!

FlyingPandas · 13/06/2021 15:55

Oh bless you OP. That sounds awful but you’re not doing anything wrong. Toddlers are cute, hideous, exhausting little people and this stage is the absolute worst. 90% of parenting toddlers is relentless and miserable and soul destroying.I honestly think that many adults would think twice about becoming parents if they knew how tough the toddler stage was going to be.

I adore my own 3 boys but the 1-2 stage was pretty grim.

The good news is that it doesn’t last and it does get better. Nearer to 2 their understanding develops, their speech develops, they become more fun to be around, it is still grindingly hard but slowly it does improve. Your situation is even harder because you’re pregnant. Be as gentle with yourself as you can FlowersCake

Adviseme2021 · 13/06/2021 17:19

Thanks both, you’re being incredibly kind. We both feel like failures today.

Glad to know it’s normal and it ends.
We had a minute earlier where we thought we must be depriving him of something for him to want to climb everything all the time 😂, he always goes for the most dangerous thing in the room. If climbing frame is inside he’ll be leaning over the edge trying to rip my cheese plant leaf off, if the climbing frame is outside he won’t touch it 😬.

Good news is we have all had an ice cream and seem much happier after a treat

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Nohomemadecandles · 13/06/2021 17:22

You're not failures! Toddlers are brutal!

CoRhona · 13/06/2021 17:30

You're doing nothing wrong; of course it's nicer to poo in a clean nappy; and he'll be a professional climber when he's older Wink

Whyhello · 13/06/2021 17:39

Ha, standard toddler behaviour. Wait until you have two toddlers Wink.

Adviseme2021 · 13/06/2021 17:54

@Whyhello

Ha, standard toddler behaviour. Wait until you have two toddlers Wink.
The fear is real 😬🤭
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