Just got out of the most bizarre romantic connection. Really liked the guy but he was stuck in the past when we first met. I kinda shrugged it off. He had been single for two years and he had tried to commit suicide and text this ex after his overdose. So I could see things got rough for him.
When we first started dating he told me about "Amy". Amy was still his friend. She popped in for coffee or food sometimes. He asked me if that made me jealous as it would proove I liked him! I was really put off by that comment but I let it go and hoped he was just abit clueless.
As time went on. Amy came up for various reasons. It seemed alot of the things he wanted to do with me were repeats of their relationship. Then he bought me nail varnish and it was the colour she had in alot of their holiday photos. I noticed he had her pictures up in his new house. I questioned him on how over her he was. He batted it off. He would never go back there. She was a good friend now. I requested he took the pictures of them gazing at eachother down.
We had a temp seperation in January. The pictures were back up when we sorted things.i rolled my eyes. He would tell me things they did together in the past. Then one particular night he was telling me he realised he never really liked her and he never ever fancied her. He then went on to tell me how she would go away with friends without him.sex toys were bought. She was acting weird when she returned etc. I said to him well maybe it's time she moved on now and met someone else and left you alone. With that he got defensive. She was like his "little sister".he nearly called me her surname on the phone once not long ago too. She sends him her Tik tok videos with her niece. (She's 38 and he's 47 for reference)
We split up and I was contacted by a woman who had also dated him just as him and Amy came to an end. She told me how he was still trying to stay with any. He messed her around big time and he had actually cheated on amy with this woman. This was the final straw for Amy and they split at this point. After he moved out in 2019 they have continued this "friendship"
When I confronted him about this other lady he went mad down the phone. Denied he had ever cheated. Amy told this woman she was always catching him out. His manly urges had wrecked them. he Said to me he was calling his ex as there was no way she had spoken to this woman. Within ten minutes he told me his ex had told him everything and me and the other lady were made out to be liars. Everything the ex told us was ignored.he refused to believe it. I told him to get some therapy because his running to his ex every five minutes was not normal and it was unhealthy and destroying any new relationship opportunities.
We didn't speak for two months. He got in touch to ask how I was. We did not start up again but stayed chatty for a few weeks. But on the second week be brought the ex up. To tell me she had done research into coronavirus vaccines. The next day he brought her up again for a funny memory. The third day he was telling me about her bracelet he filled with charms for her and wanted to get my an ankle version?? Then he accidently called her his misses and quickly said ex misses to me after. He then asked for a catch up. We never had one because I found out he was having sex with someone he had met online recently and it had fizzled out. But he lied and said he hadn't met anyone. So I got cross with him and told him to get out of my life. I then told him I was sick of him banging on about his ex and she was clearly the only woman he wanted. I told him it was unattractive and a massive turn off. He started yelling in defence. I blocked him on every platform and I'm now moving on with my life.
But now I'm thinking am i cruel to have said things when he tried to kill himself last year. Id hate to push him towards that again. But he treats women appallingly because he's stuck in the past.