AIBU to end a friendship without informing this friend?

[Cutiepie2021]

Do you believe in telling a friend before ending a friendship? I have a friend that takes-takes-takes. I have communicated to her about the friendship being one-sided previously.

I had to hung up the phone on her a few days ago due to her flipping when I provided feedback as to how i felt about something she did and I communicated what I would like moving forward, and she literally flipped.

The same pattern with regards to her taking - taking - taking is constant in our relationship. I personally am ready to move on and cut chords and don’t feel any way about not giving her a break -up message. However, I’m being told that this is ghosting and communicating is best. The only thing that was stopping me just getting on with moving on fully was that we have an event booked in August that we are meant to be going to together. However, I’m firm that I want to end it so I can sort the event and if I’ll go on my own or others later.

I see myself on being a good communicator and generally communication is important to me, but I really don’t see the benefit in communicating that I’m ending the friendship in this situation.

I’m over it.

You've tried to speak to her before and she shouts and disrespect you. You are under no obligation to keep presenting yourself to her to be treated like crap. Good riddance.

Block and delete and think no more about it. You owe her nothing.

YANBU, I agree, block and delete.

You don't owe her an explanation. If you had just dropped her out of the blue for no reason, that would be one thing, but you have clearly tried your hardest in making things work and have explained the problem to her multiple times. Block and delete as above, and you will feel so much better.

Just to add:
As to your original question about if I believe an explanation to end a friendship is needed, I would say that if you hadn't talked to your friend about her taking advantage of you, it would be polite to explain, but you have already done so. I also believe that if you are no longer close to someone to the point where you hardly stay in touch, it's OK to just let the friendship run its course.

Sounds like this friendship was very one-sided, and that you are tired of the negativity you receive, OP.

Sounds like you'd just be wasting further energy with this person trying any more, so I'd just make yourself unavailable, block and delete, and get on with your life. 🌹

There is nothing wrong with just stopping contact. Friends drift apart sometimes. You don't owe her an explanation and tbh her behaviour is explanation enough and definitely not a reason to "break off" the friendship

Block and delete.

Not enough info.

If you hadn't told her that things were one sides then stopping contact would be ghosting and not great. But you've told her what the issue is and just had a row with her about it, so I'm not sure what else you would say.

Simply blocking may be problematic if you have arrangements to do something in August - depending on what thing is, if tickets are involved or any money has changed hands, etc. but once you sort that (if anything needs sorting) then it's fine.

It’s very cruel to ghost someone. Cd you send her a letter/ email/ text at least? So she knows why?

What will happen about the August event if you ghost her now? Doesn't she have it in her diary?

What does she say when you say the friendship is one sided? And what does she say when she flips?