Child says mum slaps & punches her

[namechange842]

WWYD? DD says that her classmate aged 9 says she feels safer at school because her mum slaps, shouts and pinches her at home.

I don't want any action taken by myself to be identifying, but also don't want to do nothing.

Report, obviously!

NSPCC, school and social services.

Report what your child has said.

Report to social services and school.

You need to contact the schools designates safeguarding lead and pass the information on. Just ring up the school on Monday.

Make an anonymous referral, child could be lying but that's not for you to either investigate or manage.

Why is it bad if it’s identifying?

Please, Please report

I'd report to the school via their safeguarding lead.

Email your school head@ email address with the title Designated Safeguard Lead. That should sent out of school hours, ie now.

On Monday, phone school and say you need an urgent conversation with the designated safeguarding lead. You should expect to be spoken to more-or-less immediately (maybe a call back in 5 mins, or asked to come into school immediately for F2F chat, but that should be as long as you wait).

Your chat with school will not get told to the family concerned.

Report it to the school. They’ll have to investigate, but it shouldn’t come back on you.

I think you need to act on this. Either tell the school or ring Social Services.

Why do you care if its identifying ? A child may be being physically abused here.

Report to school as others have said to the Designated Safeguarding Lead

I care about it being identifying due to DD & I being in a vulnerable position (details will be identifying) and exposing us to the mercy of this child's father.

Please contact social services tonight, don't wait for Monday. Just tell them what your daughter has said and they can decide how to act

Yes you need to act, even though children can be terrible liars.

Despite assurances on here, I always feel once a matter has become official, and records kept, you have no 100% guarantee that your name won't come out.

Even so it is a risk you will have to take.

@namechange842

I care about it being identifying due to DD & I being in a vulnerable position (details will be identifying) and exposing us to the mercy of this child's father.

So NSPCC then. It's anonymous.

You are safe in your house behind a locked door. You can do it anonymously. Dont throw this child under the bus. Her parents have no power or control over u. They won't even know it was you.

Please please report this. We ALL have a duty to act on concerns.
I'm sure the school safeguarding lead will be helpful and reassure you about making the report.
But please please do act.
You could save that child's life (and I'm not being dramatic)

@HappyGirl86

Please please report this. We ALL have a duty to act on concerns. I'm sure the school safeguarding lead will be helpful and reassure you about making the report. But please please do act. You could save that child's life (and I'm not being dramatic)

This.

NSPCC, child services and the school.

You can report anonymously to nspcc, police or social services. Please do it now. Also ring school, but please report now

Report anonymously

I come across things like this far too often working in a school, but when we do our safeguarding training the first thing they show you is case studies where little children have died because people didn’t act on their suspicisions. The worst one I read the little girl had told or been seen by 40 different people/agencies who hadn’t followed it up and she ended up dead. Don’t be one of those.

You could be that child’s voice, you have to do something, even if you want to remain anonymous. Imagine if the worst happened and you had done nothing, listen to your conscience.

If the child is openly saying this, chances are it’s been picked up by the school already. You still need to report it, (mainly just in case this was her first and only disclosure) . Report to the school.