To be really annoyed?

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DH and I have lived in our house for 6 years now and the neighbours (a married couple about late forties/early fifties) one side have been there since before that. They have parties EVERY weekend (even through lockdown). It is annoying as they’re usually doing karaoke until the early hours. As soon as I text to ask them to turn it down (as politely as I can; I’m not rude to them) they do, to be fair.
Tonight is different - it’s one of their family members’ big birthday so it’s a BIG party. We’ve got all our windows shut and genuinely still can’t hear each other. They’ve got some sort of speaker system. It’s like being in a nightclub. We’ve got one-year-old DS whose room is in the worst place (our problem, not their). He can’t sleep. There’s no other room he can safely sleep in for now.
AIBU in being annoyed already? I won’t say anything just yet as it’s 8pm but I just hate living here.

Parties every weekend would drive me insane, that is out of order! If it was the odd one ok, but this isnt fair. Did they pre warn you of this big party tonight?

Big birthday or not, it's every weekend? Report them to the local council environmental health. If you can't hear each other with the window closed it's far too loud whatever time of day. There are rules about level of noise. This would drive me mad!

You’re definitely not being unreasonable. If it was a one off, I’d let it slide but every weekend?? It’s a joke.

Thank you. The husband, who’s the more reasonable out of the two did. We just assumed it’d be like every other week though. I’ve asked her to turn it down (not off) but she’s replied saying ‘No we can’t OhMy, it’s XXXXX’s birthday.’
I’m fuming.

YADNBU! It would drive me insane! Occasional noisy parties are bad enough but it is a disgrace that you have to put up with their selfish, inconsiderate behaviour on a weekly basis. It must be torture.

Yanbu. I would hate that. Every once in a while I could cope with but not every weekend. Don't know what you can do about it though?

Oh OP. I've been there. It's seriously soul destroying going through it.

You've been so patient. Use the link below to contact your council:
www.gov.uk/report-noise-pollution-to-council

Some councils have emergency phone numbers.

I'd look into moving if you can. Yes! I know it's unfair, but your peace of mind comes first.

Inconsiderate fuckers.

Anti social noise really rattles me. Sympathies

We’re looking into moving but I’m only working part time while DS is little. I was full-time before and will be in a couple of years. We’ll be in a much better position then to afford a house we’ll want to stay in.
Thank you so much for your replies. I couldn’t tell whether it was me being a fun sponge or them being inconsiderate. Isn’t it strange how a few nice words from strangers on the internet can made you feel so much better.
What did you do, @braceletsandbangles?

YANBU that would drive me insane. They need to rent a party room if they are going to have a big party with music that loud. It’s really inconsiderate, record it on your phone and show it to them. I wouldn’t be polite any longer.

Op you should have been up vacuuming at 6 am.
Washing machine going. Tunes on. Singing.

Do you live on my street? Are there about 15 of them out there with a huge paddling pool and hot tub?

If so I shouted at them to shut the fuck up out of the window at about 11.55, and they're all back out there now, started drinking again at about 10am

Fuck me I'd love to know who said you were being unreasonable!

Op I've been where you are. We lived next door to a guy in his 50s with a drink problem who had all his dirty drinking buddies around every Sunday night til Wednesday night. It was awful. We ended up having to move. No amount of complaining to the council worked. It actually only agrivated the situation to the point where his dirty tramp of a girlfriend threatened me.

You have my sympathies. I hope you all managed to get some sleep last night.