Supermarket war

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I just got my second vaccine and my DH had his ages ago (he's got a diagnosis which made him extremely vulnerable without the vaccine, but his blood results show he responded extremely well to the vaccine, so GP is happy for us to go back to normal. We're still waiting for his consultant to chime in on this before proceeding, just in case).

Anyway, before covid, we were in constant negotiations about which supermarket to use. He prefers those like M&S, always lamenting the lack of Waitrose in our area. We did eventually settle on Sainsbury's when shopping together.

I grew up in Sweden and Lidl was our go-to supermarket for the weekly shop, and it still is for me. Most people there do it, regardless of income (my DF works for port authority, DM is a teacher, we were OK financially, but prudence was always considered a virtue). DH has this weird attitude where shopping in Lidl is something a bit embarrassing, even though he was happy to shop there when we visited. The visits there even got him from an absolute refusal to step a foot in there to an occasional visitor.

Now we're going back to normal, I want to cancel our Sainsbury's deliveries and go back to Lidl. His argument is that COVID showed we should enjoy what we have. Financially, it's not really a huge problem, but I must admit I would be happier to see the money difference in the savings account. If anything, for me COVID emphasised the importance of the rainy day pot.

So, mumsnet, please advise!

@Rosesareyellow

He prefers those like M&S, always lamenting the lack of Waitrose in our area. We did eventually settle on Sainsbury's when shopping together.

DH has this weird attitude where shopping in Lidl is something a bit embarrassing, even though he was happy to shop there when we visited.

Clearly his ‘mindset’ is that Lidl is for poor little common people and he’s way above that. Plenty of people have given sensible reasons for preferring other supermarkets e.g. more choice, they want delivery, they didn’t like some of the food. As others have suggested your husband is simply a raging snob - make of that what you will.

Well that is nonsense. If you want Lidl pretendy brands that a poor quality knockoffs of the real thing then sure, go there. But if you prefer branded products then it's worth comparing them in other supermarkets because, for instance, soft drinks and butter are often cheaper in Waitrose than they are in Tesco (I check, and purchase accordingly).

I can't get everything I want in one supermarket. Aldi is for fruit, veg and basics and Sainsburies/ M&S for fish, meat and other stuff.

I thinkit really depends OP. I love food and am absolutely willing to pay extra for better quality. The meat I get from the butcher is better quality, the veggies I get from the local farm shop are amazing and it's worth paying extra for them. With supermarkets it's a bit hit and miss whether the pricier ones are actually better quality so not exactly the same. I think if DH genuinely prefers the higher quality food he's buying then it's fair to want to spend your money that way. If he actually doesn't notice a difference in quality and just feels a bit snobby about aldi/lidl then YADNBU.