AIBU to not want to nag?

[Naggety]

So fed up with having to nag dh to do stuff. Just one example (from thousands): we need a specific diy job done in the house before the end of next week. DH insists that he calls the guy because he wants to explain the job.
4 weeks ago - I sent him the diy guy's number and told him to call. He didn't.
3 weeks ago - reminded him to call several times, resent him the number which he had lost
2 weeks ago - reminded him a lot, he promised he would do it. He didn't.
1 week ago - asked him if I could call as time was running out. He said no, he would call. He didn't.

Today I finally lost it . He told me to stop nagging as he would do it. He has been too busy. It is literally a 2 minute job. I have spent hours finding him numbers, reminding him etc but obviously that's just my time so it doesn't matter. It's just so infuriating. In theory, he pulls his weight and has tasks that he is in charge of but in practice, if I don't stay on top of it, it just doesn't get done. Which defeats the object. So AIBU and how the hell do I get him to actually do something?

Call the guy yourself

in this case? call the guy

Case by case: either no reminders at all. Or if it affects you one reminder with a deadline then do it yourself.

And if you have to keep reminding him, tell him that when he lives alone he can live with his own inaction

Call the guy and take the opportunity to explain how you want the job done. Bypass husband completely. He will not need nagging again!

Fuck that. He has a deadline (definitely less than the four bloody weeks he's been putting it off so far) after that you do it yourself.

has he got ADHD?

OK, reminders are 'nagging '.
So make a deal with him. And the deal is: I shall never nag/remind you of anything ever if you deliver on what you agreed to do.
If he fails to deliver, even once, he has proved you are not a nagger. He's someone who can't be relied on to do what he promised.
He won't like the deal. Easier to blame someone else for your own shortcomings.

Bypass husband I do this sometimes. After waiting 3 years for him to choose living room furniture that he was apparently really interested in but never enough to actually do anything, I ordered and installed all the furniture while he was at work. But it seems my only option is to do everything- in which case why bother pretending we're a team?

If you do everything yourself for long enough he'll be surplus to requirements and can jog on!

He won't like the deal.
He actually doesn't care. A previous attempt to not nag him resulted in us paying more than £500 for his contract that he didn't cancel. I was furious. He wasn't that bothered - although we needed the money.

The only way I've found to get around it is to say "no, do it right now because otherwise you'll forget until I bring it up again". And insist he does it immediately.

No BJs.

@Naggety

He won't like the deal. He actually doesn't care. A previous attempt to not nag him resulted in us paying more than £500 for his contract that he didn't cancel. I was furious. He wasn't that bothered - although we needed the money.

@Naggety

everything you said sounds like executive dysfunction. Which is a red flag for ADHD.