To ask my cousin when is her baby due?

[Hairbrush123]

So I have a cousin who I don’t speak to that much and she posted a picture of her baby scan on WhatsApp stories. I saw it, congratulated her and wished her a healthy & safe pregnancy. She said thank you and I then asked when is the baby due? She read my message, ignored it and now a few days later, I’ve noticed her profile picture and WhatsApp story have disappeared making me think she’s either blocked me or deleted my number. Have I said anything wrong?

Or maybe something has gone wrong with the pregnancy? Maybe it’s not about you?

I hope nothing has gone wrong however we are quite a big family so I suspect I would have heard something if that were the case… who knows?

I didn't want to give anyone my due date, so maybe that's it? She could have said that though, or told you the month instead

I haven't given my due date out because so many people can't help but give you an opinion on what you should do if the baby is late, or send texts constantly asking for updates etc. I suspect she has other things on her mind and it isn't personal at all.

See, if she said she doesn’t want to give it out I would understand. Don’t mean to sound nasty but why post a picture of your baby scan on a platform that everyone can see and not expect anyone to ask anything about it? Thanks for your reasons why it could be.

That's odd. I have a friend who doesn't like to give out her due dates so she always give a rough estimate. Your cousin could've just told you we're keeping that for ourselves 🤷🏼‍♀️ if she's going to post on social media, she should expect questions ...
You've done nothing wrong

I see where you're coming from. Some people would get shirty if they were told "oh I'm not giving out a date" and the reasons why, so it is easier to just say end of X month or early X in my opinion than challenge. But, as I say, I think it probably has nothing at all to do with you and what you've said. When I've had complications and scares this pregnancy my usually close family haven't been told because it is actually better for me that way. I'm sure she's just preoccupied and fingers crossed baby is fine.

That is so odd, most people just say the month not exact date anyway so don't know why she's reacted in such a way.

The scan will have a date in it unless she’s cropped the photo so just work it out yourself 🙂

@Screwcorona

I didn't want to give anyone my due date, so maybe that's it? She could have said that though, or told you the month instead

Once we had shocked family by saying I was pregnant and given a date almost a month later to stop pestering I never referred to it again, we had the advantage of living abroad and it was back in the days of snail-mail! Any questions, comments were ignored and they knew me well enough to not push it.

I also told my parents my due date was much later than it really was, as they were so stressful in my first pregnancy when I was overdue, texting me multiple times a day and making me feel really under pressure! I also gave most people just general month if they asked.

However, you have done nothing wrong and I do find that odd. I wonder if something has gone wrong too... or maybe she's sick of constant messages from people (although as you rightly point out, why post on social media then!).

If you don’t want people to know you say something vague like the end of summer. Very odd behaviour.