Found out my partner of 6 years had been cheating last weekend. We have 2 children together, the youngest being just 5 weeks old. Luckily not married.
Only found out by accident but out came all the lies and coverups. I do not believe his apologies for what he had done but more that he was caught. I basically had to become a technological wiz to get any sort of truth. Fetish chat rooms (didn't know he was into this) for 4 years, tinder, bumble the lot. Found out via his snap chat one woman he had slept with, I took her name and she very thankfully gave me the truth and some closure. He was asking her to do it again when our baby was just 2 weeks old and still in hospital.
I am completely and utterly devastated. To me and everyone else he was a decent honest man who looked after his family. He is Very quiet and shy. I have never suspected anything in our whole relationship. He worked every hour god sent him and was a fantastic, hands on dad. He took care of most of the household chores as he said he didn't want me to have to do it. Financially I never had to worry, he sorted it. We lived a very comfortable, happy life with a fantastic home.
He left the home the morning i found out and has never come back. He has tried everyday to tell me how sorry he is and that he has mental health issues. He has gone as far as telling me he doesn't love our baby so he knows he is unwell. I don't think I could despise him more.
As I have a young baby and a toddler he has agreed that I will live in the family home for a year and he will pay all bills. I am only receiving SMP. He has also booked in with a Mortage advisor to see how much I can take from the house. Looking around 30-35k. The mortgage is in his name so hopefully this money does appear. I am fully aware there is time for this to change.
Now to my point, how do I heal from this?
Will I ever be able to trust again?
Has anyone got any hopeful stories that the future will be ok?
AIBU to think all men are capable of this and only some get caught? Feeling very bitter tbh.