Hen party leaving my baby for a weekend away

[Billie1991]

AIBU? I’ve just been invited to a hen party which will be for the weekend and 200 miles away. I’m not sure if I feel ready to leave my baby for this long and I’m unsure if what my financial situation will be AIBU to say this to the person organising it or not

Invite, not a summons.

No yanbu to not go but if you want to then just go!

Why would you ne unreasonable not to go to something you don't want to? Don't get it.

You don't have to go if you don't want to, or can't afford it.

Maybe ask your friend for the last date you can give her a reply? But don't commit if you think you will later pull out of the trip, as she may expect you to pay for your share.

Just decline

Don't give lots if excuses. Just say "sorry, I can't make it"

Just say sorry, won’t be able to attend, hope you all have a lovely time.
End of. No need to give reasons.
Hen party weekend boil my piss anyway...

How old is the baby when it happens and when is it? Don't go if you dont want to though! When my baby was 8 weeks I went on a hen do with him (cottage with 2 of the women being pregnant - one of which was the bride). I couldn't have left him then. When she was 6 months I went on my own hen do for 3 nights and that was a totally fine. Bloody loved it except for having to pump!

How old is baby and do you want to go?

My best friends hen do was when my baby was 3m old. I was pregnant and working when it was arranged so I paid the £200 for the accommodation but I said I would decided nearer the time if I felt able to leave baby and could afford spending money. I really wanted to go but didn't know how I'd feel nearer the time, if I'd be breastfeeding etc. I went in the end and although I felt home sick I had a lovely time!

2 of my best friends missed my hen do because of pregnancy/babies, didn't bother me in the slightest.

Do what makes you happy, just be honest and upfront about it. don't worry about someone else's feelings, proper friends will understand!

Are we all really in a position that we can’t make these decisions for ourselves without resorting to Mumsnet for the answers?

Of course YANBU to not want to leave your baby, nor is it unreasonable due to an uncertain financial position.

How on earth did anyone make decisions before the internet is beyond me.

@Strokethefurrywall yup

Up to you.