to think this is not normal behaviour?

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I cant talk to people about what is going on in my life, surely this isn't normal?
Im going through a bit of a rough time at the moment and I can't seem to talk about it even though I want to.

Yes it's normal. Everyone's different about how they approach this sort of thing, don't worry.

Im like this OP, it can be hard when you can't talk about things but need support.

that's hard.
especially if it's not just want thing but a bunch and maybe you don't know where to start.

sorry if it will sound obvious but have you tried writing it down? doesn't need to be a diary or any way organised.
just scribble some thoughts on a scrap paper and chuck it in the been if that helps?

I once wrote an "I hate" list then threw it away. it relaxed me

*in the bin
not been 🙄

Sometimes you just go through phases when you're settling your own thoughts and hearing other's opinions isnt helpful. It's good to be self reliant and be able to process things internally. This is what meditation and other practices aim for.

However if you are in pain and unable to ask for support, that is not good for you.

Are you ok?

Does it help to rant about it on here?

I'm similar, I'm going through the worst period of my life over this last year for many reasons. My mental health is so low and I find it hard to talk to people. Most people have no idea what I'm going through, they bust me playing the fool and laughing and probs would be quite shocked to learn the truth.

I agree with @ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba, I wrote things down , but I set them on fire ( outside ! ) I found it very cathartic.

But you still really could do someone to talk to and use as a sounding board , that's what MN is for

Because it's too painful to talk about or because you can't seem to find the words or find it difficult to know/name your feelings about things? For me it's the latter.

Sorry you're having a shit time . Hope things get better for you soon.

Why don’t you choose someone you trust and tell them exactly what you’ve just told us. If they are any kind of friend, they will help you to open up to them.

It's normal. It could be you're afraid the emotional floodgates will open & you won't get it back together. Or it's just too private, or it's just too much to process at the moment. I find writing it down a huge release. I used to wonder why Counsellors recommended it , but actually it helps to get it 'out' & afterward when you've had a cry , it can help you to gain perspective & see it more clearly: instead of your brain endlessly going in exhausting circles that solve nothing.

Yes it’s normal. I don’t talk to anyone about anything that’s going on in my life. I just don’t feel comfortable doing so.

Im the same OP. Unless people ask really specific questions, I find it so hard to talk about how I feel.

Would it help to speak to someone you don't know? I found speaking to a counsellor so much easier than people close to me when I had PND.

Can you use MN in the same way?

@SignOnTheWindow

Because it's too painful to talk about or because you can't seem to find the words or find it difficult to know/name your feelings about things? For me it's the latter.

Sorry you're having a shit time . Hope things get better for you soon.

Both but mostly because I can't find words to describe how I am feeling.

@Holly60

Why don’t you choose someone you trust and tell them exactly what you’ve just told us. If they are any kind of friend, they will help you to open up to them.

I don't have many friends and no one I am close too. I was going to talk to a colleague who I get on well with just so that I had a bit of support at work but she's leaving so it seems a bit pointless talking to her.

Try to write it down in a journal. It's only for your eyes so it doesn't matter if it doesn't make sense. You can re-read it and delete bits til it makes sense, then you could verbalise it in short sentences.
I would speak to the colleague. She may be leaving but it doesn't mean you can't keep in touch.
Am sorry you're having a tough time. Hope things improve.

The fact she's leaving makes her perfect! Its not a good idea to share too much with colleagues but as she is leaving and won't have any conflict of interest or duty, why not see if you can make a friend and you could try out a short communication of how you're feeling and see how she responds?