Long story. But DH has acquired a stalker in the form of a male distant relative which we think is driven by jealousy. I'd say there's only two main drivers for stalking. Lust/sexual obsession or jealousy. We know it's not the first one!
DH and stalker have a long history and both came from a difficult and impoverished background. They grew up together and have made life choices that were very different. Hence DH could be 'perceived' outwardly to be doing well for himself. Stalker? Not so much.
A whole series of events have incurred recently which we've reported to the Police who say we've got no evidence. DH hadn't been in touch with stalker for a few years after purposefully going no contact. We live in different towns but we recently moved house and told nobody from that side of the family.
A few weeks ago stalker turned up outside, in a huge sports car making a lot of noise to attract attention. We live in a quiet back street with no through traffic so this is not the norm here. He said he's been watching us for months. He gave verbal evidence which proves this. Eg, visitors we've had, clothes we wore etc.
Anyway, we're scared. And wondering how he found us. Stalker's brother works at a high street bank which DH uses for his personal account (only found out recently through digging).
We suspect this is how the leak happened. We've raised a complaint and the bank are taking it seriously, but no outcome as yet.
People who work in bank's - how rare would this type of leak be? How easy to achieve? Would DH's account have an audit trail? Could the bank cover it up or would they admit it? What would happen next? I'd love some insight to help my nerves.
We've narrowed it down to the bank or a utilities company that another shared relative works at. For context, DH and stalker are from a different culture where family ties often come above other priorities, including the law. Or certainly in their extended family.
Really worried about where this could lead. And DH wants to now move house. A bloody ball ache!