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Am I being fussy or just unlucky

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IliveonCoffee · 10/06/2021 12:13

Its a wedding one. No-one has really said anything but maybe they're all too polite...

I was due to get married in October last year 70 odd guests, date set, then you know the drill. Venue eventually declared they were not going to be open, so we found a hotel that would be.

We changed the date to July, due to numbers and the time frame (it was maybe August when we finally confirmed). After some discussion we decided, actually we'll go up to Gretna and do a half size wedding, we had to move the date a couple of days but all good.

Obviously Christmas and January was all covidy. After much humming and harhing Gretna said the venue we'd chosen, they weren't going to open but if we changed date or reduced our wedding down to an even smaller event (I.e. a dinner table) we could have a different venue.

By this point I felt I'd compromised a lot - reduced numbers, changed dates, changed venues. I really didn't want to reduce it even further and basically cart my family up for a glorified meal out.

So I changed venues (again) to somewhere local and set a date for October. Perhaps this was where I'm being a little fussy - but I couldn't cope with the idea Gretna would decide to switch up my venue again or where we were pinning it around this bloody road map, covid would mean changes.

This morning...after 5 weeks waiting the registar can't do the date...as we have to co-ordinate both the photographer (been so understanding!) and the venue with the registrar, we're looking at postponing again...to February.

I know I'm probably being a little fussy...and hindsight is lovely saying I should have just stuck with the hotel I booked in July before changing to gretna, but am I really being fussy? I just feel like its been compromise after compromise until its barely a shadow of what I planned, then goes tits up and I have to start again.

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Skysblue · 10/06/2021 22:38

Well all that sucks, I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t think you’re being fussy.

It is what it is. Life went weird and your wedding can’t be what was planned unless you’re prepared to wait ages.

Personally I’d have a tiny no frills local wedding now and a huge 1st anniversary party / posh belated honeymoon, but it depends on if you’d rather wait.

whatswithtodaytoday · 10/06/2021 22:56

It does really suck, I'm sorry. However, I probably wouldn't book something for February just in case we're under restrictions again - hopefully things will be fine once everyone is vaccinated, but if it is going to go tits up it'll be this winter.

Have a think about what really, really matters to you - is it the venue? 70 guests? Particular people? Something else? And base your decision around that. If it means waiting until things are more certain then maybe that's worth it to you.

stackemhigh · 10/06/2021 23:20

Not fussy, just unlucky. Everything in its own time Flowers

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