to feel a bit upset by colleague reaction

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I recently returned to work after an illness and in my second week back it all got a bit much. Im not the sort of person who talks about my feelings much as I struggle to do it but I told one of my colleagues that I was finding it a bit much and she replied with - I don't blame you if you leave things are really bad here.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and a new member of staff tells the same colleague and some others she is struggling - to which they all reply oh you are doing such a great job, if you need to chat anytime we are here for you.
AIBU to think it would of been nice to have a bit of support from my colleague?

she might just have been having a bad day when you expressed your feelings? Ask her about 'why the difference' perhaps?

Perhaps they could be more honest with you because they’ve known you longer and can trust you.
They don’t know the new member of staff so they can’t start slagging off the company and saying how awful it is and they wouldn’t blame them if they left in case that new member of staff went and told management.

I think you are overthinking it. The colleagues was speaking to a different person on a different day, there is no script for her to follow, she is allowed to say something different.

Your colleague was being more honest with you, struggling herself on the day she spoke to you. Now training a new member of staff, so must be more professional.
That is how I would take it.
Hopefully, if you have a fresh pair of hands now, maybe things will get better at work for both of you?

They don't want to bad mouth the company to the new employee and maybe think if you might be leaving they need the new one to stay

There could be so many reasons why you got different responses. You are different people and have different relationships with the person who made the comments plus that person may have been feeling differently plus it sounds like there were more people around when the other colleague said some tiny.

Let it go.

I think she was empathising with you, but had to be more professional with the new start as they were in training. Don’t take it to heart, and I hope things improve soon.