DP keeps falling asleep on my pillows making them hot when I get in bed. LTB?

[snowdropsandcrocuses]

Just that really. He gets up super early so is often in bed before me. He's taken recently to falling asleep across my side too and when I go to get in bed, my pillows are hot. Not a whiff of cold cotton anywhere. I'm considering LTB. What other options do I have?

Ooh DH isn't allowed to even touch my pillows. This would send me over the edge.

A chillow is what you need.
Or cheaper - wring a thin scarf/cotton towel/flannel under the cold tap and place on pillow. Lay head down and blissful coolness is yours.

@the80sweregreat

First world problem! 😂 annoying though. You could waft the pillows around a bit out the window ? ( I knew someone who used to put the pillows outside the windows to air ) Or just hide your pillow?

It is indeed a first world problem. But I'm sat on a train, all glammed up for the first time in months as I'm heading to meet a mate for dinner and drinks. I'm ridiculously excited to be 'out out' and thoroughly entertained by the clever ladies on here and their suggestions. I may well remove all pillows and suspect them out of the window 'to air' and to cool. Wrote bedtime. Although in today's weather I fear they may come in warmer than when DP has snuggled into them. They won't be soggy though!

I solved this cos dh is a fucker for fucking with my pillows.

When you change the bedding, put the fancy pillowcase on the worst pillow. Then 2 plain pillowcases. Stack them on the bed with worst in top, then second worst then third. If your dh is like mine he likes a pile of pillows and just sleeps on the top one which I lob on the floor, swap best to top of second best and away you go.

You need one of these: www.sleepfoundation.org/best-pillows/best-cooling-pillow

If that doesn't work, I'm afraid you'll need to patio him.

You need another pillow, or soft bed bumper type thing he can put in the middle of the bed if he goes to sleep before you. Highly unlike he’ll cross that line when he is asleep.

(Speaking from experience from when my very cuddly children want to sleep in bed with me )

You know the thing about silk pillowcases eradicating all signs of wrinkles, frizzy hair and flab (slight exaggeration)? Well I fell for the sales pitch. I now have one fancy silk pillowcase. And I've still got wrinkles.

But, here's the amazing thing, they are so cool! DH won't nick my pillowcase because it's not manly enough. So I get to have the pristine cool silk pillow all to myself. £30 odd quid well invested.

@Bargebill19 that's just disturbing. My head would be all damp!

@HighlandCowbag your pillow antics are fantastic. I haven't confessed to you all up to now (blatant drip feed) but I am in fact a pillow hussy. I have 4 (because one is relegated to between the legs) and DP has two. So in order to neatly stack, my fourth pillow is placed on top of his stack and when I come to bed he usually has left my pillow on my side to retrieve. Occasionally we get our pillows mixed up and I hate his. They are harder and stiffer and generally make me very unhappy. But I don't wake him to swap because that's just crazy! Instead I will lay there huffing because everything is wrong if I don't have my pillows. Yes, I know this is insane.

@HavelockVetinari good grief at the price of some of them I think it might be cheaper to have a new 'patio'!

Take pillows off the bed before he goes to bed

I’m sorry this is your own fault. Very early in the relationship you need to establish that touching your pillow will not be tolerated, it’s a boundary that he should not be crossing.

On a more serious note, it really upsets me when DH touches my pillow. He’s gets it all out of shape. When I’ve gone away for work I’ve been known to take my pillow with me so he can’t touch it.

Have a look at chillows. Gel inserts for your pillow (or that you can lay on top of your pillow). You can find them relatively easily on Amazon. Pop it in the fridge and take it out before you go to bed and pop on your pillow. The majority of reviews are from women going through the menopause but I bought one for DH because he can really overheat. He loved it.

Wow that's appalling.

LTB and don't look back.

Take the pillows with you.

Duvet and pillows removed from bed and put so they’re easy for you to put on later.
Sheet across the bed for him to use by himself.
Loud klaxon to wake him up whenever he crosses onto your side and he needs to move back to his side.
If you can’t get a chillow, have a look on amazon etc for a magic chilling towel. I have just the scarf version - you wet them, flick them around a bit and they become much cooler - I use on the summer to help keep cool and they are fab (so long as you get a decent one not the super cheap fakes). Theynow do towel sizes up to beach towel size - I’m contemplating getting a medium one to put over pillow or body as required this summer

😂😂 worst

I got silk pillows for the wrinkle thing and mentioned to DH that they stayed lovely and cool so he went and got my spare silk one for his sleeping pillow (we have top pillows that aren't slept on!!) so then had to go out and get 2 more.

They're like children. You can't have something bloody nice without having to share it with them 😡

I have a cool gel pad which goes inside my pillow case. I keep it in the fridge during the day, got it on Amazon. Couldn’t go to bed without it tbh.

Burry him under the patio? 🤷‍♀️

The lady was a talking point with her pillows out the window! Apparently you shd change pillows every 18 months or something! I bought some pillow protectors , they do stop a lot of marks on the actual pillows.
Enjoy your night out.

Yeah I do this to poor DH, he’s a good egg though he doesn’t mind too much

Ah well thanks for all the hints and tips. Definitely looking into the chillows. I agree that we can't have anything nice and I chuckled at the suggestions I take the bedding with me.

He has always wondered why I'm so particular about my bed and my sleep. He just doesn't understand. After reading all your suggestions I've accepted I should not LTB not bury him under the patio but perhaps rules need reinforcing around touching my pillows.

Fwiw, I have just eaten out at Nando's and am now sat in a pub garden having a beer which is the first time for me in nearly a year. I am double vaccinated and people are having fun. It is liberating!

Pillow case in fridge.

Oh that's annoying.

What a cheeky shit.

That's one of my pet hates.

Alexa, initiate divorce proceedings.

Klaxon to be sounded every time you enter the bedroom snd see him doing this.
My DH does this too, but whilst I’m in the bed and we’re both sleeping!
Messes and rumples up his own pillow then tries to sneak his head onto mine . He gets very short shrift for it, I tell you! Then he acts all hurt and offended in the morning.