To feel uncomfortable at work?

[callmemaybee]

I work in a building which requires authorised access and speaking to security guards to sign in/out.

There’s a security guard whom makes me feel uncomfortable. He constantly talks about my appearance, what he thinks my ethnicity apparently is, what I’m wearing, how he hasn’t seen me in a while, how “fit” he thinks I am. I can’t stress enough that his attention is unwanted - he’s old enough to be my grandad as I’m early 20s.

I feel creeped out, especially if I’m by myself. With colleagues, he keeps it professional and the signing in/out exchange is essentially done in 30 seconds. If I’m by myself, he’ll incessantly speak to me for over 10 minutes before allowing me to sign in/out.

I’m scared to broach the subject with my manager as we don’t have the best relationship. She’s worked with the man in question for decades so will likely side with him regardless.

@callmemaybee

It’s like, I’m a grown adult, yes I’m sure I know what my ethnicity is

Yes but you're also a woman which means you might not - what with your tiny little lady brain and everything

Did you manage to dodge the chitchat today?

Sounds really stressful, OP. In you position I'd a) figure out a nice appropriate script to use with him. Greeting, sorry, I'm running late for a meeting can't stop to chat/whatever, but also b) set my phone to record every interaction. If a) doesn't work then you have b)

Thanks for checking up on me

Well I didn’t report him, but I did complain about him informally to his direct colleague, who was furious and had a word ! Thought it would be the easy way out as I wouldn’t have to involve my manager/HR.

He hasn’t even looked in my direction since so I’d say that’s a success hopefully nothing more happens now