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FlowersInHerHair24 · 08/06/2021 10:09

I didn't know where to post this. But this is more of a rant and need to get it out, so thanks to those who read. I know people may feel the same others might not.
I feel like life is a battle of exhaustion of work, family and friends, I'm the one people rely on or come to for even for common sense things . I work full time just to afford the bills and food shopping. I can rarely treat myself unless I save. People never come to see me even before covid but ill always make the effort to see them but on my terms no one bothers. I try to keep hopeful I'll either find a cheaper place to live/higher paying job. But all I think is this will be it for the rest of my life. A cycle of working long hours for that to be paid to someone else, all that time and effort into a job that gets thrown away really. I don't want to sound ungrateful but I honestly feel like I've been given a life I didn't want. My father died and my mother was neglectful so I cut ties with her, why have a child to then not bother then expect me to help her with money etc because 'you wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me' that was her choice. I don't want a pity party I just want a life where I can be on my own never have to see anyone

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FlippinFedUp21 · 08/06/2021 10:17

First of all I also grew up with a neglectful mother so I know what that's like. The feeling of emptiness it left me with has always been incredibly hard to deal with. Having a rough childhood I believe makes people very introspective and anxious, not really able to enjoy things easily, everything is tinged with sadness in a weird way.

I used to hate work too but I've come to see it as not just something that gives you money and a way to live. It's something to keep you busy and give you a purpose. It could be anything from working in a factory to being a brain surgeon. A job is a job is a job.

I know it's hard not to feel you've had a bad lot in life but honestly if you are working and earning you are doing well. It's so important to have a job no matter what it is. I'm such a firm believer in that. I would say the cost of living in an ongoing struggle for a lot of people. I was quite envious of a friend who was always going out, getting beauty treatments, flash new car, holidays. It turns out she's been mortgaging her property to 30 years to get cash and then spends it. Things aren't always what they seem.

I think it's OK to rant. How would you feel about getting some counselling to help with how you're feeling though? It can be very helpful.

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