... or just impatient ..

[marcshandbag]

My partner is a bit of a hypochondriac . There is always a sore muscle or a cold or am ache .
He attends a physio and does his exercises most of the time but it seems
Like it's one thing after another . He may have a few days where he feels great or good , the majority of the time though he wakes to a different ailment every day .
I understand that he has these difficulties but what annoys me is that if a tablet or more exercise or more hydration or weight loss would improve his quality of living , he won't really do those things.
Almost like a ..' I'll battle through it...' attitude.
We've had a lovely weekend but the last dat was ruined by his latest ailment ... a bad lager/ dehydration/ too much sun .
I feel in parts guilty , part sick of it .
He is lovely and caring and a great boyfriend but has been on his own for a few years and has only him to think about which I expect adds to this .
I am caring by nature but I am also a busy mother of three who spends her days chasing around looking after everyone else . Aibu or any advice or thoughts ?

I would worry that the dynamic between you is enabled by you being the caring type, and him looking for a mummy to say ‘There, there.’ I would have absolutely no patience with this kind of hypochondria, and would crisply suggest he should see a counsellor to talk about why this is clearly a psychological tic of his, and that I do not want to hear about his sunburn, iffy pint, dehydration etc — that’s grown adult needs to take responsibility for drinking enough fluids and wearing sunscreen, and that his inability to manage his own body is childish and unattractive.

I used to have a good friend who would always say he was ‘tired’, even after a weekend of doing nothing, or after walking a hundred yards from his car. I would say ‘That’s not normal — get your iron levels checked’ and change the subject.

If dh gets like this I tell him he sounds like his df and it isn't exactly a turn on...
He quickly reverts back...