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Am I being unreasonable to feel totally fed up

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mussymummy · 07/06/2021 19:12

DP had a go at me this morning because I made scrambled eggs for breakfast and god forbid I left out the salt and ketchup in the counter instead of putting it away. I was rushing as had dropped dd at school and my work phone went off just as I was taking food to table.

I am so fed up I feel I literally do everything house related. Taking dd to school every day, getting her ready for school, packing snack or lunch, collecting dd 4 days a week (dp does 1 day collect). I do the food shopping, cook every day, plan the weekly meals with no help from dp despite his massive list of foods he can't eat he is incapable of opening a cook book. He never dusts, he does put the dishwasher on the the morning but that's it, rarley puts the washing machine on, never buys clothes for dd, or does the clothes cull for her of clothes that no longer fit, never waters the plants. Dd had an ongoing health issue which is not serious but again its always left to me to ensure we have enough medicine, call doctor etc.

Sorry feel like I am just totally moaning but I am so so fed up and tired. Dp hoovers once a week (never thinks to mop after), and badly cleans bathroom once a week, he cleans inside bath, inside sink and inside toilet thats it.

When I was furloughed last year I was happy to do everything to do with house and dd but I am working full time now and am just constantly exhausted having to deal with his odd hissy fit cos I left a spoon in the sink or some hair in the bathtub.

Wise ladies of mumsnet please give me some advice to keep me sane as I am on the verge of totally going on strike.

OP posts:
Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 07/06/2021 19:32

Sounds like life would be easier without him. I'd draw his attention to that and ask him how long he would stay with a partner who made his life more difficult. Then go through all the things that need to be done and divvy them up fairly (in writing so there's no forgetting).

stackemhigh · 07/06/2021 19:39

So he does very little and does it badly and yet had a go at your for leaving salt and ketchup out so you could dd to school?!

Why are you putting up with this, OP?

Please don't be sorry for moaning, tell the fucker he needs to do half from now on.

Why doesn't he cook or wash up? Take dd to school?

Aprilwasverywet · 07/06/2021 19:40

You withdraw services of all kind. Agree to being lodgers - do your own thing. And mean it.
Or he can move out.

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