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To ask for help choosing which job I should go for?

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UpSlyDown · 07/06/2021 15:09

Current role is job A. Prospective role is job B (will arrogantly assume I would get the job for the sake of this- I am qualified for it so hope I'd be in with a chance!). I have a 4 year old at school and 13 month old at nursery.

Job A

  • Flexible hours- work a 3 day week but can work from office or home and be flexible around family life
  • Uni holidays so still working but can take A/L to cover most school holidays
  • Good employer, kind manager
  • Everyone works from home so I sometimes feel quite ne and a bit lonely.
  • I've worked in this area 3 years (mat leave year 2 ) an am still finding my feet. I don't feel 'good' at it more that I'm muddling through constantly
  • Could progress but will need to complete masters and progression is slow and cumbersome.

Job B

  • Could work 3 long days a week so more money
  • Hospital hours (set shifts e.g. 8-7) so no flexibility . Wouldn't be around for school/nursery run morning or afternoon- all on DH
  • Have to rely on A/L for any extras e.g assemblies, plays unless on my days off. May be hard to get A/L for school holidays as competing with other staff who also have kids
  • Its my passion and I love it. I love treating patients I miss it in my current role.

Head says job A. It works for us as a family. But I just don't care that much about it and I don't feel good at it. I did job B pre-kids and I was good. I loved every second. My heart says go back to that. But does it work with kids? One is a nursing role (B) and the other in nurse education (A). DH is supportive but is contracted to work 9-5:30 daily so school and nursery run 3 days a week all on him would be really tough. We currently share them equally.

I worry I will leave job A and kick myself every school holiday, every thing I miss, every time I can't do something. But now when I look at people doing job B I wish it was me.

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dancingqueen345 · 07/06/2021 15:16

How often does Job B come up? To be honest it feels like it might be a bit soon.. unless Job B is super rare I'd probably be tempted to give myself another year where I am and then reconsider after that. You've not really been in Job A a huge amount of time (taking out mat leave) and you may feel completely differently in 6/12 months!

UpSlyDown · 07/06/2021 15:38

Thanks @dancingqueen345 yes perhaps once or twice a year- it isn't a now or never again type thing!

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parietal · 07/06/2021 15:58

does job B have opportunities for career progression? will you be able to move on to more interesting roles with better pay?

Elouera · 07/06/2021 16:04

Is job B shift work? Nights, weekends etc? Would it be returning to ward work? Having been out of it a while, you might find it exhausting with 2 kids now, compared to pre-kids. If its still senior and not on your feet all day, it may not be too bad. What progression is there with job B, as job A sounds stagnent.

UpSlyDown · 07/06/2021 16:25

Job B would have opportunity for progression and further study, but limited at nursing is unless i want to go up to matron etc which I'm not sure about. Its community clinic work so not nights/weekends just long days! More sitting at a desk doing assessments etc.

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insideoutsider · 07/06/2021 16:34

I am pretty biased, being a single parent and have always done the school run alone (so DH will cope really), I would go for Job B!
It's not every day that your dream job, something that makes you truly fulfilled, comes up. A job you no longer love can really eat at you, leading you slowly into being depressed (unhappier).

I would go for the new job. Especially if your DH will support you. But that's me.

UpSlyDown · 07/06/2021 17:55

Thanks @insideoutsider I'm like you I'd always go with a heart over head decision naturally! I just worry it'll disrupt the routine we have cobbled together but it could be worth it!

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