Dp constant whattsapp group messaging

[Funnyfishface]

Aibu

My partner spends much of his time checking his phone. He is in numerous WhatsApp group messages. All sport mostly football related. It drives me mad.
He doesn’t really post on them but the constant reading the messages, watching videos that others have forwarded.
I have spoken to him about it. He doesn’t seem the harm in it.

He has now turned off the sound, but it still vibrates and goes on all through the night.

Anyone have any ideas.
I don’t want to be That Nagging Mrs - or moaning but it is upsetting me

He needs to put the group on no vibrate /ping

I have a few like that

So will say on screen if a message but no noise

Bernadette- that’s ridiculous.
No I don’t expect that
But
I would rather him being out with his real friends than sat scrolling through messages on his phone
If his head is in his phone all night how can you be watching a film, hold a conversation etc

What is he, like 11? The only people I've known whose phones ping with messages like that were my daughters when they first got their phones in Y6, as did many of their classmates and they were all messaging each other with the sheer novelty of it.

@Weirdfan

I would tell him 'I feel like I'm in a relationship with half a person, you're so distracted it's like you're not really here a lot of the time and that's not enough for me. If you can't figure out a reasonable balance you will lose me', and I would mean it.

Exactly this He’s distracted

@HarebrightCedarmoon

What is he, like 11? The only people I've known whose phones ping with messages like that were my daughters when they first got their phones in Y6, as did many of their classmates and they were all messaging each other with the sheer novelty of it.

Mid 40s

I would hate this as well. I am aghast at how many people pay more attention to their phones, than what's going on around them. You see couples in restaurants just staring at their phones and not talking. Why did they even go out together? People walking the dog, glued to the phone, instead of noticing the nice things around them. Often not even realising the dog has dropped a huge shite. Mum's and kids in cafe's all on screens. Goodness knows how humanity is going to end up, if this carries on.

We live at the seaside, and in the summer months huge gangs of kids come to the (vacant) Pier on their bikes, and spend the afternoon jumping off it, laughing and chatting. Some people find this annoying, but I always think how lovely it is, to see these teenagers having fun outside, and interacting in person with their peers, rather than sitting in a dark bedroom on a screen.

All my group messages are on mute. All the time. Most group messages are for jokes and chit chat.
I have an emergency group with my friends so if anyone needs help quickly, kids, dogs, cats, elderly parents. We only use this in emergency and so if I hear that then that's different. But the rest are just annoying when it's ten people laughing at the same joke

I think it's unreasonable to expect him not to be on his phone whenever you're around, e.g. sat on the sofa watching tv.

However, when you're actually doing something active together, such as when eating or going for a walk, why don't you ask him to not bring his phone?

I have now dropped off from being with people who are totally addicted to their phones etc. It doesn't matter where you are,or who you are with, there will always be a constant checking of phones going on at all times..

I was just trying to have a conversation with a young woman outside the village shop here the other day, also her small child was asking her Mum a question, but the woman had deaf ears to both me and the child, and was texting someone, and then phoning someone, and engaging in a conversation with someone. So another person to avoid in the future.

Just ask him to put his phone on silent.