Teen sex offender.

[Considerthis201]

This isn't a aibu as such but id love to hear other parents and school staff option.
I had a boyfriend ( if you can even call it that) at 14. He was the same age we would kiss and hang out together at school never outside school. It wasn't a secret so other kids and staff knew. I decided to finish things with him and after that he hassled me sending notes following me about the school. He even followed me in to the toilet once
Anyone back to the present day and hes been sent to prison for various sex offences including one when he was 12 so before me and when at school.
Why wasn't there anything to protect any of the girls at the school? They must of known as the victims parents called the police and it was left on file. My dd is at high school and i hate ti think that known sex offenders are there but due to age nothing is done.

My first thought was that perhaps the girls involved did not come forward until much later, so no one knew at the time you were together that there was concerns?

Thankfully you called it quits! That still must be scary to think about the 'what ifs' !

What happened is completely unacceptable and I dread to think what could happen if this boy would use today’s opportunities to identify as a girl.

I really hope better safeguarding is in place these days.

I used to work in the criminal justice system. I don't think it's uncommon. Teenage sex offenders, if they aren't given custodial sentences, will attend mainstream schools like any other teenagers. The staff will know but no one else.

I found this out when I was dealing with a very vulnerable 14 year old girl and she was being pestered for sex by her 14 year old 'boyfriend'. He had been convicted of a string of stranger sexual assaults when he was 13/14. He would go up to lone women in the street, engage them in conversation then try to grope their breasts or put his hand up their skirts. Don't think he was even put on the sex offenders register for some technical reason I can't remember. Here

When I spoke to the headmistress of the school she was well aware of his previous convictions but all they could do was keep an eye on him. Even with my new info that he was pressurising a vulnerable girl sexually there didn't seem to be anything they could do other than 'keep an eye out'.

That’s shocking @ArsenicNLace and a very frightening thought.

Why does the right to privacy of these young offenders take priority over the right of young and in many cases vulnerable young girls to go to school in a safe environment?
I am thinking that girls only schools aren’t such a bad idea after all.

@TheMagicPudding

My first thought was that perhaps the girls involved did not come forward until much later, so no one knew at the time you were together that there was concerns?

Thankfully you called it quits! That still must be scary to think about the 'what ifs' !

The girl involved told her parents and parents told the police. It was left on file

Honestly OP, it’s because despite all of the lip service, society doesn’t give a shit about the rape and sexual abuse of females. The statistics around rape prosecutions send a clear message that the authorities don’t care, don’t think it’s a serious issue. When you see some of the horrific cases that do make it to court, and the man still gets found not guilty, you have to start to accept that we are a hair away from rape being legal.

Women and girls can’t rely on society/those in positions of authority to do anything to help, in fact we’re often sent the message that it was our own fault, so we need to look out for each other instead.

If I was a member of staff who knew a student had a history of sexual offences I would be concerned about any girlfriend of his. I'm not sure what can be done in that situation though either today or in the past. (Obviously very strong action could be taken about any student currently harrassing another student but I'm not sure about disclosing information about accusation to other students - perhaps someone who works in a school could comment).

@SaltAndVinegarSandwiches

If I was a member of staff who knew a student had a history of sexual offences I would be concerned about any girlfriend of his. I'm not sure what can be done in that situation though either today or in the past. (Obviously very strong action could be taken about any student currently harrassing another student but I'm not sure about disclosing information about accusation to other students - perhaps someone who works in a school could comment).

Thats my whole point no one seemed to care.

You would be very surprised at how many sex offenders are in schools.

There are several issues (societal and legal ) that contribute here.

First of all, the minimising of sexual offences in general, even more so when it involves children. They're too young, they're just boyfriend and girlfriend, boys will be boys etc.

Secondly, you have "public interest " prosecutions, a lot of incidents barely make it to trial,much less get a guilty verdict. Even with a guilty, sentences are lenient and the focus is on "rehabilitation ". The aim is to get offenders back on the streets and be productive members of the community. With a child that aim is even more important.

Then discrimination, various rights etc. come into play. Including the right to an education. So those kids have to go to a school. Once there, several rules,policies etc. tie teachers' hands.. be it by the system or SLT. You can't warn other students, you can't prevent that child from having a relationship with someone else, you can treat them differently, make comments etc. Safest avenue possible is report any concerns higher up.Of course,that's assuming they do care, which wasn't often the case in the past.

I have a friend who is a TA and was sexually assaulted by a student. It was all swept under the carpet until she had a breakdown in school. Due to the age and vulnerability of the student police were never an option.