Tea Time

[Eor2]

I am a monster for thinking that people who pop in at 5pm (when they know this is tea time in my house) should have more manners and know better! I think they are incredibly selfish to intrude at such a time. Rant Rant.... and so on

Just like I think tht my mam is also a pain in the arse for always ringing me either during breakfast or at 8.30 just as we are about to leave.

Could you try a spot of doorbell deafness Eor2?

Elastic that is what my sister does, she only ever answera the phone when its convienent for her, which is frustrating for the rest of the western world. I think thats half the reason that I have to answer.

Don't answer the door. Don't answer the 'phone.

I don't think people are necessarily rude - they just don't realise. People with kids wouldn't do this, surely?

have you asked them not to come round or call at that time, some people dont mind people coming round or ringing at tea time they may well not realise it annoys you when people do

Eor2 I sympathise. YANBU but some people love to just drop in. You may get some replies saying YABU and should enjoy having people dropping in regardless of whether it is convenient. I think you are either the type of person who does mind or doesn't mind. You and I seem to be the former.

My ils always ring at this time or at bathtime. If we don't answer fil complains when we next see them that they get a "recorded message" (said in whining tone)
If we try and ring them after tea they are having theirs and are unhappy, if we ring after bathtime they are going out or watching Eastenders.

Clearly it's fine for us to eat a cold meal etc but not them.

YANBU - I always make sure that I go to peoples houses at a reasonable time. If I am having coffee or a play date at someones house I always leave well before tea time prep starts and I also leave before thier husband comes home.

I also unplug my own phone when I or my family do not wish to be disturbed and also if I am resting or in the bath I don't feel the need to rush and answer the door.

If someone turned up say at a late hour, I would have no probs in telling them its not convienient.

There is a time and a place for everything.

Phones and doorknockers are not our masters

Beeper, you are so right, so why do I feel awful for ignoring them.

5pm is quite early for tea-time, maybe they don't know?