I've been dating a guy for 6 months. It's different from anything I've ever experienced. I'm used to highly charged, intoxicating, tearing each other's clothes off kinds of relationships. None of those have ended well (hence I'm no longer in them), but that spells 'relationship' to me.
This is totally different and I'm very confused about how I feel.
It's been a real slow burn. I'm not overwhelmed by lust (although I can see he's an objectively great looking guy), I don't miss him when I'm not with him and I don't get super excited to see him. I always have a nice time when we're together though.
Up until maybe 2 weeks ago, I'd felt strongly that this meant it was a waste of my time and would eventually end. I stuck with it just to see what happened but I wasn't convinced. I've kind of just been going through the motions doing coupley stuff and seeing what happened.
Recently though, I've felt it turn a corner. Really slowly I've started to feel like his partner. I took a toothbrush and some make up remover to leave at his house last week and it didn't feel wrong. In the past, I've just not bothered staying over at all.
I find I'm also starting to wish I was with him when I wasn't. Not in the yearning, all-encompassing way I have with all my previous relationships. More of a 'I wish I could just pop round and we could stick the TV on and chill out with a cup of tea' kind of way.
This still all feels totally alien to me. On the one hand I'm really happy to feel like this. On the other hand I wonder if I should be feeling way way more after 6 months and if I'm therefore kidding myself that something good is happening here.
Is this how healthy relationships go? Has anyone had a relationship that started like this? Are we doomed because I don't want to tear his jeans off with my teeth every time I see him?