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Best person you've ever known

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toconclude · 06/06/2021 09:38

Now everyone's had a vent about horrible people, a chance to laud the lovely ones. I vote one of my oldest friends who despite at times struggling with severe MH issues has been a wonderful friend, dedicated professional and always tries to see the positive, without being a walkover. She's generous, calm, lives very simply and has that rarest of gifts, complete integrity. She's who I wish I could be. And I know I'm not BU😁

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MintMatchmaker · 06/06/2021 09:40

My Dad.

Jasmine11 · 06/06/2021 09:44

My dad too. He was kind, interesting, great company and always looking for ways to make life better for his family and people in general. He could also be an infuriating scatterbrain, so he was no means perfect but he had such a beautiful gentle soul. I miss him everyday and if I can be half the human being that he was, I would consider my life a success :)

isitjustmeorareweallgoingmad · 06/06/2021 09:47

Cliche but my mum.

Her dad died when she was 13 and her mum died when she was 18 and both suddenly.

She carved out a life for herself and worked hard to put money in the bank and gain great qualifications. She is fiercely independent in life and a great person to know. I’m just so lucky she’s my mum.

She met my dad and they’ve had a long and happy marriage, almost 50 years -which I always feel like she deserved after such a turbulent youth.

Everyday21 · 06/06/2021 09:48

My dad is awesome to, so kind, calm and the hardest working person I know. So many good qualities

Also one of my best friends. She's amazing. People regularly get jealous of her and accuse her (behind her back) of being fake but she's not at all. She lives the most wonderful life and is so much fun to be around. I could call her in the middle of the night and she'd travel the 4hrs info needed her to.

Itwasgoodwhileitlasted · 06/06/2021 09:50

My friend Julie.

Always upbeat, rarely complains or bitches, and she is very funny. We always laugh a lot.

She is one of these people who feels like sunshine 🌞💛

Peccary · 06/06/2021 09:56

DH's step mum, loved her. Just so kind and compassionate, always doing something for others. It makes me sad every day that DD never knew her. The turnout for her funeral was enormous.

suspiria777 · 06/06/2021 09:58

My grandad. Just such a good person.

JustLyra · 06/06/2021 10:00

My ‘other’ MIL

My MiL is wonderful. However my O-MIL is the most amazing and inspirational woman ever.

Her daughter, my DH’s first wife, died cruelly young when her DS was tiny. OMIL and MIL supported and pulled my DH through it. OMIL did that despite her own obvious grief.

Then when, in time, DH met me she was kind and supportive, even though it must have been awful for her to see. When DS was 10 he said he wanted to call me Mum. I was really conflicted as I have very strong views on people who parachute new partners into their kids lives and quickly have them calling them Mum/Dad.

OMIL took me out for the day and made my cry by saying “My DD loved being a Mummy. Her biggest fear when she was dying was leaving him. She would be very happy that he now has an amazing Mum to look after him.”

Whilst she obviously adores DS1 the most she is also “Granny Name” to my girls and to the children DH and I have gone on to have together as well. And somehow she insists that she is the lucky one that we let her! It’s us that are lucky to have her.

My MIL is also the mother I never had so I’m very lucky.

BoredatHome321 · 06/06/2021 10:02

@JustLyra wow, I'm tearing up here, big time. What a lovely lovely women ❤️

awkwardd · 06/06/2021 10:02

My MIL.

She's such a good person, I will forever be grateful to have her in my life and to have her as my DCs grandma.

All of my in laws are like this actually, really good people and I'm so lucky to be part of this family that always looks out for each other.

BettyUnderswoob · 06/06/2021 10:04

Your OMIL sounds wonderful, @JustLyra 🙂

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/06/2021 10:04

My friend. She's such a lovely person, she never has a bad word to say about anyone. She's so thoughtful, during the pandemic she would send little "surprise" parcels to my house with little treats in like hot chocolate, face masks, nice handwritten notes. I wish I was more like her.

EnterFunnyNameHere · 06/06/2021 10:10

I feel like it's a bit naff to say, but my DH is the best human being I've ever met. He's obviously lovely to me, which you'd expect in a marriage and obviously benefits him too! But he just quietly and without making a big deal of it "looks after" people, even when they might not realise they need it. He picks up on body language really well and is brilliant at just being there and available, even people he doesn't know that well/have management responsibilities for. He has no skin in the game as it were, just genuinely feels that the only important measure of career success is that people are happy at work. It is something I hugely admire and respect him for.

JustLyra - that is so lovely to read, what an amazing person!

AlfonsoTheMango · 06/06/2021 10:10

My dad.

Anrom19 · 06/06/2021 10:12

@JustLyra that has bought a little tear to my eye ! Selfless acts that mean so much

thefirstmrsrochester · 06/06/2021 10:13

My neighbour, he’s like Buddy the Elf in human form, with an utterly wicked sense of humour to boot. He makes our street feel like family and five minutes of his company leaves you with your face hurting from smiling. He’s a foster carer, chicken keeper, community activist and volunteer, pet sitter, gardener and errand runner for anyone who asks (or doesn’t ask - he just does things that you didn’t realise you needed help with), and at the drop of a hat, great fun to be around and just absolutely the best person ever. I’d never ever move house because I’d never be so lucky again with neighbours.

RedthroatedCaracara · 06/06/2021 10:15

Thanks for a lovely thread OP Flowers

My daughter (17). She has faced challenges that would fell many adults but she carries on being lovely, brave, thoughtful, engaged with life and with a mischievous sense of fun. She's fearless and I wish I were half the woman she is set to become.

chickenninja · 06/06/2021 10:16

Got something in my eye now, thanks @JustLyra. Beautiful.

PegasusReturns · 06/06/2021 10:17

@JustLyra I’ve actually cried a bit at that. I think as mums we can all relate to our biggest fear being that our children are left motherless. Your OMIL sounds amazing.

RuthTopp · 06/06/2021 10:22

When I was 15 I had a Saturday job working on the deli of a supermarket. There was another woman who worked on it called Joan. She was probably in her 50s so never a friend but she was the calmest, most softly spoken, elegant , good hearted woman I had ever came across , a truly good hearted person.
Also my mum another lovely lady.

SavageBeauty73 · 06/06/2021 10:24

@JustLyra I actually got tears!! What an amazing woman ❤️

Cliche but my parents

Ratonastick · 06/06/2021 10:27

My old boss. She was a very tough Director in a male dominated business, hugely intelligent and hard as nails. For context, I was a pretty junior clerk in the finance department, she was on the Board of an internationally recognised company.

I was about 14 weeks pregnant and something was wrong. The baby wasn’t moving and I just knew. I went into her office with her post and burst into tears and told her. She was amazing. Put on her coat, grabbed mine and got me down to her car, drove me to hospital, sat with me through the scan and put her arms round me when they told me. She then sat and waited with me until DP got there. Afterwards she told me to come back to work when I was ready, no pressure or anything, and told HR to back the fuck off when they started on about sick notes etc. She could not have been more supportive and kind when my world turned to shit.

butitsatalkingdog · 06/06/2021 10:40

My mum 💖 she's been a single mum almost my entire life (with partners here and there) she's so friendly, calm and supportive. She's a brilliant grandma to my DC.

And my friend. We have only known each other a couple of years but she is the most generous, caring and kind hearted person I've ever known. She just gets on with everyone and is like a ray of sunshine. Her teenage DD is exactly like her too, she has done such a good job of raising her in to a kind human 💖

tornadosequins · 06/06/2021 10:49

Lots and lots of people. It would make for a very long post.

I've made sure they know.

ohitssuchaperfectday · 06/06/2021 10:55

My GP as a teenager - she was just absolutely perfect at her job . She would do anything to help anyone and went far over and beyond the call of duty . Sat with me and helped me fill out forms for benefits, supported me to apply for a job, talked me through a major operation, and was just generally absolutely wonderful . Taught me how to take care of myself, and provided nurturing, consistency and stability that I had sorely lacked as a child . Showed me how to view my limitations as my strengths .

She inspires me every day as she came from a perfectly normal working class home, worked exceptionally hard through very adverse personal circumstances to get where she is - every time I struggle I think, if she can do it I can do it too .