I live abroad and we are luckily restriction free atm. Yesterday evening dd’s (age 8) friend came over after school for dinner and sleepover, her sister (one year older, dd is almost exactly between their ages but not very close friends with sister) came over too unexpectedly. The two sisters started arguing and it turned out to be about the fact that sis wanted to stay for sleepover but the original invitee didn’t want her to. I stepped in and said we didn’t have space for another sleepover but we could arrange something another day. Sis went home in a strop (they only live across the road).
Half an hour later I received a text from their mum asking if sis could come too, saying she was very upset to have been excluded. I reluctantly agreed, and the three girls seemed to get on ok.
At bedtime I had to go and remind them several times to go to sleep and dd told me the uninvited guest (ug) was throwing things at them. Eventually they went to sleep but at 12.10 ug appeared in my room and woke me and dh up telling us she was hungry (she had eaten a full dinner and had fruit later). We told her there was no food to be had now and she needed to sleep, ten minutes later she reappeared and said she wanted to go home. We ended up texting her mum and her dad walked over to fetch her. Her sister didn’t seem at all surprised in the morning and said this has happened before.
I saw dad this morning and asked if she was ok and he said she was. AIBU to think it would have been nice for him to apologise for the inconvenience of us having to get up and send her home in the middle of the night? Or was I being mean and should I have given her more food so she could settle in bed.