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Was I rude?

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3plantpots · 05/06/2021 20:20

DH had a go at me when leaving a pub today saying I was really rude. It certainly wasn’t the intention and I don’t think I was. This was in an area we don’t know, we found a pub online for lunch, quite swish website and food photos looked good - booked and all sorted.

Arrived and the building was very run down and a bit rough looking, odd and worn out outdoor furniture and home made A4 printed signs everywhere. Basically I wouldn’t have booked it if I had seen it first.

This surprised me, so as we took a seat outside I very quietly said to him ‘ well this is interesting’ while nodding towards the furniture. This was rude crime one as apparently a waiter was in earshot. Rude crime number 2 was discussing wanting to go to a very nice looking restaurant we had passed on the way, which I said looked very nice and would be good for a special dinner. Again apparently waiter heard and this was rude?? I really wouldn’t have thought they would give a toss tbh, even if I was being rude, which I don’t think I was. AIBU?

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Kettledodger · 05/06/2021 20:24

Who really gives a shit what the waiter who you probably will never see again in your life over hears??? Very weird IMO

iklboo · 05/06/2021 20:27

Your DH is weird. Sounds like my ex who told me I was 'showing him up' all the time if I dared voice an opinion in public.

BlueDucky · 05/06/2021 20:28

Do you have form for saying things about people within earshot of them or was this a one off incident? If just a one off thing then I think your OH is over reacting but it can get wearing if everytime you go somewhere there's always something negative.

Aprilwasverywet · 05/06/2021 20:28

I once commented (at our home nobody around) very strongly I was concerned dd was involved with a known drug user.. Dh went mad at me. Apparently I wasn't allowed to have my own (negative) opinions and should keep them to myself..he was controlling in other areas as time went on. .

Kettledodger · 05/06/2021 20:31

@BlueDucky

Do you have form for saying things about people within earshot of them or was this a one off incident? If just a one off thing then I think your OH is over reacting but it can get wearing if everytime you go somewhere there's always something negative.
But the OP wasn't saying anything at all about anybody it was all about the restaurant/pub. I would agree talking about a person within earsholt would be rude but this isn't the case here
Original poster
3plantpots · 05/06/2021 20:41

@BlueDucky

Do you have form for saying things about people within earshot of them or was this a one off incident? If just a one off thing then I think your OH is over reacting but it can get wearing if everytime you go somewhere there's always something negative.
@BlueDucky I don’t think so!! I was also very complimentary about the food - which was actually really nice - to the staff and generally friendly and chatty to them!
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BlueDucky · 05/06/2021 20:47

Very odd then. I don't think the comment about dinner was at all rude and the one about the furniture I personally would have waited until I'd left in case it sounded like I was saying the place was shit. But it wasn't that bad.

Aprilx · 05/06/2021 20:49

I think if you spoke loud enough to be overheard by the staff it was a bit rude yes. He obviously thought you were loud enough, you think you weren’t, bonody on MN would have any idea.

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