To hate it when other people inflict their music on me in a public place?

[Annoy]

I’ve been to a lovely swim spot near my home today. Tranquil, small lake surrounded by trees. It’s a pretty quiet spot considering it’s in the Lake District, it’s not a tourist spot and there’s about a half hrs hike up a hill.

There were a few people there enjoying themselves, including a family of 4 with 2 small children and their loud music playing, echoing across the tarn.

Why? Just why?! Are they that self obsessed that they just don’t give a shit? Or AIB totally U to be wound up by it?

I was reading a review of a campsite recently and a man had complained that the owners had told him to stop playing his music on the site. His argument was that it was on low and it was Smooth radio. The campsite’s argument was that their rules say no music, whether it’s Rave or Smooth or classical.

I was at a beautiful Scottish Loch last Saturday and one family was playing their music really loudly, it meant that about 30 other families all along the shoreline were forced to listen to it. Then they started singing along like a really bad Karaoke

And yes I'm sure they were having a lovely time and a great laugh, but I'm pretty sure everyone else would have preferred some peace. It's just so selfish

I’m at pride 7’s so there music and a tannoy etc, we moved about half an hour ago as the people next to us (not spectators) was playing really really loud music, as in party loud, not sat in the park loud.

It is very selfish!

That also reminded me of being on an open top bus last week, again in the Lakes. A group of tourists who were together were just singing! Crapply!

Even worse is ‘adult’ lyrics - I don’t want to have to explain misogynistic, sexually explicit lyrics to young DC when we’ve popped out to the park for an ice cream

YANBU, I HATE this. It's so incredibly selfish and thoughtless. I would never dream of doing it and I genuinely don't understand how it's become more normal.

@SomethingOnce

Even worse is ‘adult’ lyrics - I don’t want to have to explain misogynistic, sexually explicit lyrics to young DC when we’ve popped out to the park for an ice cream

I remember having to teach my son the lyrics ‘socks on fire’ rather than ‘sex on fire’, as much as I like the Kings of Leon I’m pleased it is now a rarely heard song.

Its arrogance and selfishness. A lack of awareness that other people exist and might have different wants from their day out, plus a staggering belief in their God given right to do whatever they like, no matter how it affects others.

Can't bear people like that.

I agree, and extend it to buskers. Why do they think they can pollute my airspace with their crap performance? Straight to Room 101 with them.

I’m concerned that this is becoming the norm. I went on a train today for the first time since 2019, and there were three separate people in the carriage playing music/videos on their phones without headphones.

A lot of our neighbours often have music on outside - one likes to do workouts in her garden so we regularly get an hour of loud dance music during the daytime.

Me and DH went out a couple of weeks ago for our anniversary once restaurants reopened. It was a very nice place, and a couple next to us were showing each other videos on their phones at full volume.

It pisses me off so much. And it seems to be becoming more and more common, sadly.

These people will be the first against the wall when I become ruler of the world. Selfish cunts.

I can't stand it.

It should be illegal. Put headphones in if you're outdoors and want to listen to music. Nobody else wants to hear your shit.

I agree! It’s almost as though the more selfish and aggressive people in society have just taken over.

It's infuriating. Why go to the countryside if you don't want to experience the natural noises of the countryside? And why inflict your shite music (it is always shite music) on everyone else?

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

I agree! It’s almost as though the more selfish and aggressive people in society have just taken over.

Yes, this is how I feel, there's just so many of them around!

Everyone thinks they're the most important person in the universe and no one should get in the way of what they want. And I say want, because so many people seem to confuse want and need too.

Quite often see people like that get aggressive when challenged too, because they've never been pulled up on aggressive behaviour and had excuses made for them from mental illness to poor childhoods, and sometimes even rewarded for it.

We have to live side by side, and everyone seems to want to demand that their wants are understood and met, without wanting to even consider doing the same for others.

People letting their children watch peppa pig in coffee shops with the sound blasting out - my children can watch it on mute or with headphones only

I remember having to teach my son the lyrics ‘socks on fire’ rather than ‘sex on fire’

One for a future ‘fibs your parents told you’ thread!

This all boils down to one thing - people are incredibly selfish these days - no thought or feeling for others or worry that you might be annoying them. It's sad.

I bloody hate it. Particularly at the beach.

I was on a train back from London the other day. The woman four rows behind me had a work call on speakerphone the whole time. Sufficiently loudly that everyone in the carriage could hear exactly what the person on the other end was saying. After 10 minutes, I politely asked if it could be turned down, presuming she'd take the hint and turn it off speakerphone. Nope, she gave me a filthy look and turned it down ever so slightly then continued. I do not want to hear your sodding work call about the FCA blow by blow.

Ages ago my friend was listening to some music on headphones on the tube. A commuter tapped her on the shoulder and said in "Chris de Burgh?" in the most scathing tone. Perfect riposte I thought.

@MagicSummer

This all boils down to one thing - people are incredibly selfish these days - no thought or feeling for others or worry that you might be annoying them. It's sad.

It is very sad.

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

I agree! It’s almost as though the more selfish and aggressive people in society have just taken over.

Why are people referring this as a new thing, it's been happening for years, ever since the advent of personal devices there have been those slobs who don't give a damn about other people.

There's a beautiful spot by a river near me that's nice for a picnic. Arranged to meet up with a friend last weekend and when we got there a huge group had set up camp, literally. Massive 8 man tent, bbq, windbreaker, and an actual loo with a tent over it, and of course they were playing loud music. Clearly there for the day, or weekend.

@zyx12

I bloody hate it. Particularly at the beach.

I was on a train back from London the other day. The woman four rows behind me had a work call on speakerphone the whole time. Sufficiently loudly that everyone in the carriage could hear exactly what the person on the other end was saying. After 10 minutes, I politely asked if it could be turned down, presuming she'd take the hint and turn it off speakerphone. Nope, she gave me a filthy look and turned it down ever so slightly then continued. I do not want to hear your sodding work call about the FCA blow by blow.

Ages ago my friend was listening to some music on headphones on the tube. A commuter tapped her on the shoulder and said in "Chris de Burgh?" in the most scathing tone. Perfect riposte I thought.

I recall being on a crowded bus when a young woman was having a very loud discussion on her phone with her boyfriend, everyone could hear here and a number of people joined in, offering advice to the pair. SHe got off in quite a huff.

JudgeJ now that's the perfect solution! I do know a bit about the FCA so perhaps I could have chipped in with some loud suggestions. It surprises me that the other people around are too polite to say anything as it must be annoying them too....

We have a running group that run past our house. There is a lot of them and they take a while to get past. As they are running they have people who carry speakers and are spaced along the line of runners blaring out inspirational running music to keep everyone’s spirits up. The number of times that they have woken me up is stupid or disturbed my relaxation or peace but they don’t think they are doing anything wrong.

@ToryStelling

I’m concerned that this is becoming the norm. I went on a train today for the first time since 2019, and there were three separate people in the carriage playing music/videos on their phones without headphones.

A lot of our neighbours often have music on outside - one likes to do workouts in her garden so we regularly get an hour of loud dance music during the daytime.

Me and DH went out a couple of weeks ago for our anniversary once restaurants reopened. It was a very nice place, and a couple next to us were showing each other videos on their phones at full volume.

It pisses me off so much. And it seems to be becoming more and more common, sadly.

I am worried about this too. I recently went on a train journey for the first time in a while and at least four people were playing music/watching the news/playing games out loud, the noise all competing with each and a builder on the seat next to me had the sounds of a pneumatic drill as his ring tone. I had to put my headphones on and could still hear the cacophony of bullshit irritating noises.