Neighbour noise

[NC4this2021]

NC just in case!
To set the picture, we have gardens that are not spaced apart, so imagine a garden with a knee high fence in between, that's the only distance/gap
My neighbours have put in their giant pool for the summer (it takes up 90% of the garden)
All day now (10am - 7pm ish) and pretty much every day it's children screaming/shrieking constantly with no break apart from when they have lunch
To add to that, we have fire doors which are the type that slam and rattle everything nearby unless you hold them and close them. Apparently they're incapable of this so every day the doors slam countless times and rattle everything

I feel like I can't use my garden because of the noise (want to sit and read a book or just drink a brew) , can't have my windows open when it's hot because I'm working and the door banging is setting my fucking teeth on edge and I don't know if AIBU as I don't have children
Am I? I'm sat in my car to get away from the noise as I've got a headache and there is just constant noise everywhere

I think this is part and parcel of being part of a neighbourhood.

If I were you I'd address the lack of privacy. We only have a short fence between us and our neighbours so are arranging to fit a 6ft trellis with climbers in our courtyard so that we can read/sit and relax without feeling overlooked.

In terms of noise - as long as it is it during reasonable hours there is really nothing you can do other than buy a pair of noise cancelling headphones.

Nowt you can do about the noise but I’d stick a higher fence up

I agree with @GoldSlipper, get a tall fence. But re the children playing noise, you're going to have to suck it up or move to the countryside. Maybe get some noise cancelling headphones?

Not allowed to change the fencing unfortunately due to restrictions. It's a metal type one, about knee high
I might see if I can find some earplugs if anyone has recommendations for small ears!
I honestly don't mind noise of children playing, it's just that it's all day, and it's the screaming that's so loud. Double glazing, all windows shut and it's audible when I'm on the phone to customers at work

Also, could you ask if they'd mind you paying for a soft-close door mechanism to stop the slamming?

@emptyempire it's every door
All our doors are fire doors so bedroom, living room, main doors etc
My mum always forgets when she comes over about the front door and I have to go "DOOR!" before it slams
The rest of mine have door stops as mostly open

In that case I think the headphones or moving are probably your only options. Or pray for bad weather!

Oh no, that does sound like a nightmare either the doors then OP.

I am waiting to hear back about the fence as that's another issue but need to get some info first (being vague deliberately) as it seems it's possibly my fence but currently has a load of shit (vague again) that's been attached to it (by said neighbour...)

Are you in England? If so, you might get a bit if respite for the next few weeks, as the kids will fe back at school.
Gives you time to gave a plan in place for the summer ho,days.
If you are somewhere the summer holidays have already started, house canceling headphones while you look to see if there us something more longterm you can do.

Yes in England. Some are school age, some aren't so i guess it depends if they're in nursery or not. Was the same last year but I think I had blanked it out

I would ask your neighbours to keep the noise down a bit and not slam the doors. But I bet nothing changes.

It infuriates me how inconsiderate people are. I get that children have to have fun in the summer but we are still in the middle of a pandemic and people are still working at home.

There are other children that play out the front and I honestly don't mind that, it's just talking/playing noise with the odd bit of laughing
This is full volume through closed windows with customers commenting on it on the other end of the phone 😤

The best earplugs by far are silicone ones, eg bioears. Worth the extra couple of quid and you can reuse them for quote a long time depending on your approach to personal hygiene

Macks slim fit earplugs are amazing if you have small ear canals, you can get them on Amazon.
I'd ask them to keep it down, nothing wrong with children playing but shrieking is too much, I've no idea why it doesn't irritate the parents as much as everyone else. And perfectly reasonable to ask them not to slam doors esp if you are working.
Alternatively take a large pin and puncture their pool overnight

I don't get how the doors don't bother them! They're so heavy - if my front door slams, it makes the bathroom cabinet fly open

I've seen in on other noisy neighbour threads when the OP is basically told to.suck up the noise of move to the countryside as if the default is everyone can be noisy and that's fine, why isn't the default that people have to be quiet and considerate of others?!

this sounds awful & it must be shit living next door to them

The fence between us and our neighbour is waist height and according to the deeds belongs to both parties. So I'm leaving it as is. I'm installing 6ft trellis a meter away from the fence to allow a corridor or space for us to get to our back fence yet also allow privacy for us when we are using the back garden. As it will not be over 6ft and has nothing to do with the shared fence I don't need planning permission or anything.

typo - above should read "for us to get to our back GATE (not fence!)