To expect a modicum of sympathy or even acknowledgement of an injury?

[Machia]

I've had a (fairly common) injury for a few weeks now which isn't life threatening (!) but can be quite painful and limits some movement until it heals, which could take some time. I don't think my 'DH' has said anything at all about it, despite me mentioning it a few times, and asking him to carry/move stuff because of it. When I mention it, he just looks at me, then carries on without saying a word.

It wouldn't be so bad but, one; he's a perpetual hypochondriac and I sympathise with his complains almost daily and, two: he's sent a couple of messages to a woman he knows who has had a baby and they sound very supportive in terms of encouragement for her to get fit again following the birth.

I hardly ever get ill and rarely have injuries. I'm quite stoical and usually carry on through pain, but I know that this one needs rest for healing to complete. AIBU to start feeling a tad miffed that he appears to have no interest at all in my well-being? And any ideas about how you would handle this?

Ah I’m so sorry for you! 💐 Even if it’s not life threatening - which would be a ridiculously high bar for a bit of a sympathy 😮 - you deserve some TLC.

Pain is pain. My little girl has chronic pain following a broken spine. Does that mean she doesn’t need just as much TLC when she scrapes her leg? Not at all - she still wants a plaster and a cuddle even though she’s experienced much worse. YANBU in the slightest to expect some kindness and help!

If he’s a hypochondriac, could it be that he struggles with seeing others injured/ill as it triggers his anxieties? It’s no excuse though and if that is the reason, he should be seeking some support.

For now, look after yourself. Give yourself some TLC if you can, you deserve it. I hope you feel better soon!