To think my Dh is an inconsiderate nobhead?

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We are meeting up with family (his) today who we haven’t seen in ages. Got a lovely restaurant booked, staying overnight, it will involve having drinks all afternoon in a lovely setting and the sun is out. We were both really looking forward to it.

Last night he said he was just going to have a couple of beers as he wanted to be fresh for today, so I had an early night. Turns out he cracked open the brandy and got totally pissed, and is now yawning his head off and got a hangover.

Aibu to think he could’ve controlled himself? It will put a real dampener on today and I’m so annoyed with him. I can’t go on my own, everyone is in couples and I’d spend all day answering questions about where he was. Nobhead.

I guess it depends on how hangovers affect him, which you would know rather than us. If he's going to be dying from the inside out all day, dry heaving in the restaurant and being in a foul mood then I don't blame you for being annoyed. If he's just a bit tired and peaky, nothing a shower and a "what makes you bad makes you better" attitude won't fix then I feel you should let this one go, for the sake of enjoying yourself at what sounds like a really lovely afternoon. Don't let him spoil your fun.

Once he's had a couple of drinks he'll perk up again. You can't have a long afternoon session drinking and have a hangover at the same time, it doesn't work like that, he'll be fine.

He’s a knob but a hair of the dog and he’ll be right!

That is annoying, but I would press on with today’s plans regardless. Plenty of people have managed a day with a hangover.

I think drinking brandy and getting pissed alone at home is extremely worrying. Does he do this often?

Not everyone's hangovers are the same though. My friend will feel a bit grotty in the morning but perk up after a glass of wine and a paracetamol. I would literally be on the verge of puking all day and would definitely not be able to function or be good company with a bad hangover.

I honestly feel sorry for some husband's sometimes. Yours is one of them.

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I honestly feel sorry for some husband's sometimes. Yours is one of them.

Bloody hell, all he had to do was not have a raging hangover for an event OP and presumably his family were looking forward to. It's a very normal, adult expectation. He sounds like he doesn't just have a sore head but is going to be terrible company all day because he's so rough. That's just really inconsiderate behaviour on his part. It's not even like he was at a big birthday party or wedding he just drank a load of brandy for no reason.

He's hte one with a hangover.

Just chat to other people and enjoy yourself anyway

I wouldn't judge my DH for this, he's a grown man and can make his own choices! I really don't see why you can't both still enjoy the day, it's not as if he's throwing up everywhere! It sounds like you've made your mind up and are determined that the day is going to be ruined, could become a self fulfilling prophecy!