to make DD stay in bed?

[VictorianSqualor]

This weekend DD has had a bit of a cough. This morning she told me she didn't feel well, and said she wasn't well enough for school. Within an hour of DP leaving (he normally takes her to school as it is quite far) she was messing around with DS and has been playing about ever since.
If I lived near the school I would've taken her straight there once I realised she was fibbing, but I don't.
I told her that as she was well she would have to go to school tomorrow, and that I was going to take her there earlier (at around) 12pm, she then told me she was sooooooo poorly, tired and felt really sick, so I sent her to bed telling her it was the best place for her.
I have just put the TV on for DS and she has obviously heard, came downstairs and told me she is better again, but I said she couldn't be sure as it keep coming and going.
AIBU? Should I let her off and tell her to come downstairs? or will me doing this mean that she won't do it again?

how old is she - can you get her doing some school work?

She is 7 on saturday, and doesn't have any school work here, I could get her to practice her handwrting I suppose.

and reading - throw in a few easy spellings too. Make her work!

Give her a break - she probably just wants some TLC and attention.

I really don't think she's about to become Chief Truant on the basis of one duvet day

the school day is over now so as long as she knows she is going tomorrow I would carry on as normal

she has been such a pain though soapbox, winding her brother up, jumping around all over the place, if she was even a little bit poorly I'd understand and maybe be softer on her, I know when you wake up you feel more crap than a few hours later, and one day off school isn't a huge deal but I just think she is taking the mick!

I'm going to ask her, if she is 'better' she has a choice then, either catch up on some school work or go back to bed.

blimey I sound as 'ard as nails!!!

Tough love in the Huw household!

I would leave it for now but be sure you are sending her to school tomorrow.

Ah! That's a bit different then

Stick a DVD on wrap them up in a duvet on the sofa and give them a huge bowl of popcorn. Tell them if they so much as touch each other the DVD is going off!

Then sit down with a cup of tea and relax

Aw I fell for one recently like this.

We have a "You have to stay on the settee, or go to bed, if you are ill." You can watch tv, or read, or play board games, but not get up (except to go to the loo, of course!) It's usually enough to deter faking, in our house, where sitting down is not practiced very often, but enough to prevent me from being too awful when they throw up and I discover they really were ill all along - as happened last week!

Ok, sorted, thanks for the advice, I've never had to deal with anything like this before!

I don't think you were being harsh huw, just sensible, if I didn't do something then she could easily pull the wool over my eyes again, as I have to say I take her word for pretty much everything, and as I see it, she is the only one who knows whether she really does feel terrible.

I told her that not going to school is something tht should be done as little as possible, and though I understand if she really does feel awful, with which of course then the best place to be is bed, then she should do something to make sure it wasn't a complete day wasted. She is now reading to DS and then going to practice her handwriting, her choice.

My sister is 16 and is still pulling the "my tummy hurts trick" she does it very regularly and probably has a 60% attendance if not worse. It all started years ago (mum said shed grow out of it yet she is still pulling the over her eyes -well actually my Mum is well aware). Stamp it out before it starts. Never make sick days fun. I think you did exactly the right thing VS.

I feel really mean actually, I got her to do some spellings, but couldn't read them because her hand writing was so messy so marked them as incorrect (Explaining I knew she could spell but that I couldn't read them) and she cried

I don't think you are harsh at all.

My girls know that if they are off school with anything not 'tangible' or contagious IYSWIM then they have to stay in bed and it works a treat. I have never had an 'I don't feel well Mum' day.

When they are obviously genuinely poorly though and I have enforced the day off (mine would both go to school with the bubonic plague given the chance I think )

I leave them in bed for as long as they will sleep for then tuck them up on the sofa with plenty of cuddles, home made soup and dvd's.

yanbu IMO. I have a yo who has been off today, she knows it is either school or bed, or she would be forever trying it on. I sometimes let her have a book in bed, but def plenty of rest and so back to school tomo!

I have a 7yo, dodgy key sorry!

I'm the same, ill children should be in bed.